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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 511482"><p>You're right; but my H puts it to me another way:</p><p></p><p>"He is going to do what he wants to do regardless of how we feel about it. So, he can do it with our blessing and our money as we look the "other way", or he can do it on his own dime and without our approval. Either way, he is going to do what he wants to do."</p><p></p><p>We can't change it; we can't change it, we can't change it. So I will be damned if he is going to do it with our money and while we pretend that everything is AOK. Because if we don't stand for something, we will fall for anything. If I want him in my life, I will have to fake approval of his behavior. If I do that - I can't live with myself. Do I want him in my life or do I want to be able to live with myself? I choose me.</p><p></p><p></p><p>And yes, I am not really as brave or stoic as that paragraph implies. But every word is the truth. Even if I have to repeat it to myself or h has to remind me of it 100x a day.</p><p></p><p>This is my reality.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 511482"] You're right; but my H puts it to me another way: "He is going to do what he wants to do regardless of how we feel about it. So, he can do it with our blessing and our money as we look the "other way", or he can do it on his own dime and without our approval. Either way, he is going to do what he wants to do." We can't change it; we can't change it, we can't change it. So I will be damned if he is going to do it with our money and while we pretend that everything is AOK. Because if we don't stand for something, we will fall for anything. If I want him in my life, I will have to fake approval of his behavior. If I do that - I can't live with myself. Do I want him in my life or do I want to be able to live with myself? I choose me. And yes, I am not really as brave or stoic as that paragraph implies. But every word is the truth. Even if I have to repeat it to myself or h has to remind me of it 100x a day. This is my reality. [/QUOTE]
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