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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 465992" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Just one more thought, I am not sure they would do this but, if you talked to someone at the police station who deals with sex offenders about your concerns, maybe they could at least do a background check. Of course many live a whole life off radar and never get busted so there is no guarantee. But, if he has a record, it could benefit everyone in the community that he is on their radar, not to mention you would have extra evidence of what your gut is telling you. We are always told these folks can not stop. Regardless, sounds like you already have made up your mind to be cautious and not take any risks. Great mom! </p><p></p><p>extra story...value of following your gut, you can skip if you want to...</p><p></p><p>Many years ago my aunt and uncle (really my dad's best friends, not relatives) had a neighbor/good friend. When I was in college (age 17) he became deaf and asked if I would go with him shopping and running errands to interpret for him. I agreed and in addition to a small hourly wage he started buying me things. It felt weird. He would then drive all the way to my university (hours away) just to shop instead of just calling when I was at home. I talked to my dad and he said it was fine to stop saying yes (I never wanted to hurt anyone, i was a kid and NO ONE talked about those things back then...still I had already had a neighbor kid abuse me when I was small so...without knowing it I had learned to trust my gut). My aunt/uncle really came down on me that I hurt their friend, etc. How could an old man be upset with a college kid for not doing something that he could have hired MANY people to do? Very strange. Plus all of my deaf/hh friends would never hire an interpreter to go shopping. They are very capable of shopping on their own! Uncle has since died but I do think my aunt is finally over it. She has been really nice to me the past 4 or 5 years. It was awkward, but I have never regretted it even with the back-lash.</p><p>These days, my dad is a different guy....he would have gone and taken care of the matter himself. Very protective, said he is sorry about that and the other time it happened-wished he had known better... and super defensive over his grandbabies. We all know so much more now, thank heaven.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 465992, member: 12886"] Just one more thought, I am not sure they would do this but, if you talked to someone at the police station who deals with sex offenders about your concerns, maybe they could at least do a background check. Of course many live a whole life off radar and never get busted so there is no guarantee. But, if he has a record, it could benefit everyone in the community that he is on their radar, not to mention you would have extra evidence of what your gut is telling you. We are always told these folks can not stop. Regardless, sounds like you already have made up your mind to be cautious and not take any risks. Great mom! extra story...value of following your gut, you can skip if you want to... Many years ago my aunt and uncle (really my dad's best friends, not relatives) had a neighbor/good friend. When I was in college (age 17) he became deaf and asked if I would go with him shopping and running errands to interpret for him. I agreed and in addition to a small hourly wage he started buying me things. It felt weird. He would then drive all the way to my university (hours away) just to shop instead of just calling when I was at home. I talked to my dad and he said it was fine to stop saying yes (I never wanted to hurt anyone, i was a kid and NO ONE talked about those things back then...still I had already had a neighbor kid abuse me when I was small so...without knowing it I had learned to trust my gut). My aunt/uncle really came down on me that I hurt their friend, etc. How could an old man be upset with a college kid for not doing something that he could have hired MANY people to do? Very strange. Plus all of my deaf/hh friends would never hire an interpreter to go shopping. They are very capable of shopping on their own! Uncle has since died but I do think my aunt is finally over it. She has been really nice to me the past 4 or 5 years. It was awkward, but I have never regretted it even with the back-lash. These days, my dad is a different guy....he would have gone and taken care of the matter himself. Very protective, said he is sorry about that and the other time it happened-wished he had known better... and super defensive over his grandbabies. We all know so much more now, thank heaven. [/QUOTE]
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