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Son called to be picked up from a dangerous situation-I refused. Sorry-VERY long!
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<blockquote data-quote="blackgnat" data-source="post: 596516" data-attributes="member: 13561"><p>I'm not sure I can even articulate what your post means to me, RE. In a good way!</p><p></p><p>It's something I've LONGED to hear for years.</p><p></p><p>I have a very loving and caring group of friends, but NOBODY has had to go thru what I have, and I am NOT saying this like its a peeing contest. They just don't get it. Why should they? Why WOULD they? I have accepted this. Some of them are visibly upset if their kid doesn't make a certain grade or if they stay out beyond curfew...REALLY?</p><p></p><p>But I am trying to learn that it's not my place to criticize. It's all relative.</p><p></p><p>Again thank you to infinity for your kind and wise words. It's SUCH an ****** process. I feel happy that he has gone. I am NOT gonna lie ! But that feeing also leads to infinite amounts of guilt. </p><p></p><p>But isn't it okay for me to be happy that tonight, whatever he is doing, I feel okay in my own home? We ask SO little of ourselves, after all of this abusive behavior from our difficult children....that we (sorry, I mean ME!) need permission to feel at peace. Instead of, "OMG, I am warm, safe and fed" , and "my child is making such bad choices and I must suffer for their choices?"</p><p></p><p>Sorry, guys, I am honestly just processing as I write and hope that someone else is identifying with my feelings...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="blackgnat, post: 596516, member: 13561"] I'm not sure I can even articulate what your post means to me, RE. In a good way! It's something I've LONGED to hear for years. I have a very loving and caring group of friends, but NOBODY has had to go thru what I have, and I am NOT saying this like its a peeing contest. They just don't get it. Why should they? Why WOULD they? I have accepted this. Some of them are visibly upset if their kid doesn't make a certain grade or if they stay out beyond curfew...REALLY? But I am trying to learn that it's not my place to criticize. It's all relative. Again thank you to infinity for your kind and wise words. It's SUCH an ****** process. I feel happy that he has gone. I am NOT gonna lie ! But that feeing also leads to infinite amounts of guilt. But isn't it okay for me to be happy that tonight, whatever he is doing, I feel okay in my own home? We ask SO little of ourselves, after all of this abusive behavior from our difficult children....that we (sorry, I mean ME!) need permission to feel at peace. Instead of, "OMG, I am warm, safe and fed" , and "my child is making such bad choices and I must suffer for their choices?" Sorry, guys, I am honestly just processing as I write and hope that someone else is identifying with my feelings... [/QUOTE]
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