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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 550993" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>Good Morning Kim...</p><p></p><p>Was just thinking about you and hoping that today is a better one. </p><p></p><p>Boy, do I hear ya about the ironies in life. </p><p>My bio-dad was an alcoholic. My mother raised me alone with no brothers or sisters...I was pretty much a "lost soul" by the time I hit 13 yrs of age. Was drinking alone in my room and running away from home. My mother's answer was to send me to boarding school...she just couldn't deal with my behaviors. </p><p></p><p>Soooo...I get married and want 6 kids! LOL</p><p>I got 3 and have been married for 26 yrs now to husband. We gave them stability (which I didn't haven't growing up as my mother moved me like 10 times by the time I was in 9th grade). We gave them a community, each other, a mom and a dad. Sports activities, church, etc, etc...and alot of attention...LOVE. </p><p>And...All of that came crashing down when they got involved with drugs/alcohol at around the same age I had started. It was as if we could have just raised them willy-nilly without any deep thought behind our decisions and they would have turned out the same. Addiction, in our family, has a very STRONG genetic component. </p><p></p><p>We also have mental illness in our family as I have Bipolar disorder and my young difficult child (the one in prison now) has also been dxd with Bipolar disorder...but refuses to accept that he has a "problem beyond his control" sigh...</p><p>Is there any mental illness in either yours or bio-dad's family tree? Many of us have found that until the mental illness is "corrected" with medication that long-term sobriety can be difficult. I know this first hand. </p><p></p><p>Did want to mention that though both of my difficult child's are addicts...my oldest difficult child has been sober now around 2 yrs and has a wife, 2 daughters, works extremely hard, is taking college classes and in process of buying a house. So he is both sober and functional now. We are hopeful that my young difficult child will find sobriety and success as well when he gets out of prison in December. </p><p></p><p>Anyway, you were on my mind and I wanted to let you know I was thinking about you this morning. </p><p>I hope you will be able to let some of the unknowns "go" just for today and do something nice for yourself, or you husband and your daughter. You deserve a break from all the pain. </p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p>LMS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 550993, member: 3305"] Good Morning Kim... Was just thinking about you and hoping that today is a better one. Boy, do I hear ya about the ironies in life. My bio-dad was an alcoholic. My mother raised me alone with no brothers or sisters...I was pretty much a "lost soul" by the time I hit 13 yrs of age. Was drinking alone in my room and running away from home. My mother's answer was to send me to boarding school...she just couldn't deal with my behaviors. Soooo...I get married and want 6 kids! LOL I got 3 and have been married for 26 yrs now to husband. We gave them stability (which I didn't haven't growing up as my mother moved me like 10 times by the time I was in 9th grade). We gave them a community, each other, a mom and a dad. Sports activities, church, etc, etc...and alot of attention...LOVE. And...All of that came crashing down when they got involved with drugs/alcohol at around the same age I had started. It was as if we could have just raised them willy-nilly without any deep thought behind our decisions and they would have turned out the same. Addiction, in our family, has a very STRONG genetic component. We also have mental illness in our family as I have Bipolar disorder and my young difficult child (the one in prison now) has also been dxd with Bipolar disorder...but refuses to accept that he has a "problem beyond his control" sigh... Is there any mental illness in either yours or bio-dad's family tree? Many of us have found that until the mental illness is "corrected" with medication that long-term sobriety can be difficult. I know this first hand. Did want to mention that though both of my difficult child's are addicts...my oldest difficult child has been sober now around 2 yrs and has a wife, 2 daughters, works extremely hard, is taking college classes and in process of buying a house. So he is both sober and functional now. We are hopeful that my young difficult child will find sobriety and success as well when he gets out of prison in December. Anyway, you were on my mind and I wanted to let you know I was thinking about you this morning. I hope you will be able to let some of the unknowns "go" just for today and do something nice for yourself, or you husband and your daughter. You deserve a break from all the pain. Hugs, LMS [/QUOTE]
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