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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 550997" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi there. So sorry that you are going through this. You really have to understand, though, that this is NOT your fault. None of us raised our kids to abuse drugs, but all of us in this forum have had kids who abused drugs or still do. So many things come into play...one is genetics and the makeup of our child. Impulsive kids who are risktakers and born rebels tend to get into trouble with substance abuse at a higher rate (I have looked this stuff up!). Beyond genetic issues, there is peer pressure. Some kids find it hard to resist negative peer pressure than other kids. I've had both kinds and, trust me, my daughter who did use drugs was the rebel, the creative one, the one who wanted desperately to be liked and yet didn't feel liked. She also lived through a divorce and a move from one state to another...didn't help things at all. It took a long time for me to stop blaming myself for her drug use. I have talked to her about it and she has told me, "Mom, it wasn't you, it was me." She has quit (there is hope, but they have to quit on their own...they have to WANT to quit.)</p><p></p><p>Keep posting. We are here for you. You may also want to go to Al-Anon or Narc-Anon for real life support. For now, I wouldn't worry about what your in-laws may think. They are the least of your problems. Take good care of YOURSELF and don't worry about their reaction to something they don't understand. ((((Hugs))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 550997, member: 1550"] Hi there. So sorry that you are going through this. You really have to understand, though, that this is NOT your fault. None of us raised our kids to abuse drugs, but all of us in this forum have had kids who abused drugs or still do. So many things come into play...one is genetics and the makeup of our child. Impulsive kids who are risktakers and born rebels tend to get into trouble with substance abuse at a higher rate (I have looked this stuff up!). Beyond genetic issues, there is peer pressure. Some kids find it hard to resist negative peer pressure than other kids. I've had both kinds and, trust me, my daughter who did use drugs was the rebel, the creative one, the one who wanted desperately to be liked and yet didn't feel liked. She also lived through a divorce and a move from one state to another...didn't help things at all. It took a long time for me to stop blaming myself for her drug use. I have talked to her about it and she has told me, "Mom, it wasn't you, it was me." She has quit (there is hope, but they have to quit on their own...they have to WANT to quit.) Keep posting. We are here for you. You may also want to go to Al-Anon or Narc-Anon for real life support. For now, I wouldn't worry about what your in-laws may think. They are the least of your problems. Take good care of YOURSELF and don't worry about their reaction to something they don't understand. ((((Hugs)))) [/QUOTE]
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