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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 222700" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: green">{{Judy}} I'm so sorry that this happened, but glad that your son may be getting the help he needs. Like someone else said, you need to find a way to let exh's words roll off your back. It's just not important in the grand scheme of things. </span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: green">Last year I sent my difficult child to live with her dad for a mere 5 weeks because I just couldn't stand her and she was miserable too, abusive, etc. Anyway, during the first two weeks I spoke with my exh plenty and he always ended the conversation about how, "No, she seems really good, she's filling out applications, she seems happy and she's trying to be helpful. I wake her up every day before I go to work, etc"....meanwhile, I was watching her myspace and knew what she was really doing all day and it wasn't very productive or helpful in any way. She was badmouthing all of her parents and making plans to run away or have a friend meet her at the ferry to take her back to her loser friends. By the end of 5 weeks, my exh somehow managed to blame me for the failed attempt of getting difficult child back on track even after it was he that literally told me "I give up, I don't know what else to do" (he hadn't really done anything at all as of that point, as he was used to only having my girls for vacations only, never daily parenting). difficult child moved back home where she behaved for a little bit, but was back to her same old antics and hanging with the wrong crowd within months. She's had some progress but it's always one step forward and two steps back. She lived at friend's houses off and on for a while as well. My exh is pretty compliant with me and my decisions in regards to the girls, yet he always manages to find a way of saying just the thing to undermine me in their eyes or make it seem like I am the crazy one. He even goes so far as to say this out loud to them and make funny faces. I learned that I have no control over him or his comments and actions, but I do have control over me and mine. So that's what you have to stick with. </span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: green">You do the right thing by your son and hope that your son does the right thing as well. He may not get it now, but in years to come he will hopefully be able to think logically about why you left your abusive exh in search of a more peaceful life. And it he doesn't oh well, his loss. Sounds mean I know, but after a while, especially as your kids enter adulthood, you realize that you can only do the best you can with what you know. The rest is truly up to them. </span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #008000">Hugs.</span></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 222700, member: 2211"] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=green]{{Judy}} I'm so sorry that this happened, but glad that your son may be getting the help he needs. Like someone else said, you need to find a way to let exh's words roll off your back. It's just not important in the grand scheme of things. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=green]Last year I sent my difficult child to live with her dad for a mere 5 weeks because I just couldn't stand her and she was miserable too, abusive, etc. Anyway, during the first two weeks I spoke with my exh plenty and he always ended the conversation about how, "No, she seems really good, she's filling out applications, she seems happy and she's trying to be helpful. I wake her up every day before I go to work, etc"....meanwhile, I was watching her myspace and knew what she was really doing all day and it wasn't very productive or helpful in any way. She was badmouthing all of her parents and making plans to run away or have a friend meet her at the ferry to take her back to her loser friends. By the end of 5 weeks, my exh somehow managed to blame me for the failed attempt of getting difficult child back on track even after it was he that literally told me "I give up, I don't know what else to do" (he hadn't really done anything at all as of that point, as he was used to only having my girls for vacations only, never daily parenting). difficult child moved back home where she behaved for a little bit, but was back to her same old antics and hanging with the wrong crowd within months. She's had some progress but it's always one step forward and two steps back. She lived at friend's houses off and on for a while as well. My exh is pretty compliant with me and my decisions in regards to the girls, yet he always manages to find a way of saying just the thing to undermine me in their eyes or make it seem like I am the crazy one. He even goes so far as to say this out loud to them and make funny faces. I learned that I have no control over him or his comments and actions, but I do have control over me and mine. So that's what you have to stick with. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=green]You do the right thing by your son and hope that your son does the right thing as well. He may not get it now, but in years to come he will hopefully be able to think logically about why you left your abusive exh in search of a more peaceful life. And it he doesn't oh well, his loss. Sounds mean I know, but after a while, especially as your kids enter adulthood, you realize that you can only do the best you can with what you know. The rest is truly up to them. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=#008000]Hugs.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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