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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 723495" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am so sorry he abused you and your trust like this. I am glad he used the manipulation of suicide threats because it meant the police had to go find him. He thought it meant a cushy hospital and no consequences. You don't get that as an adult if you have broken the law. </p><p></p><p>I hope nobody bails him out. Please don't be hard on yourself. You can only do the best you can with the information you have. You listened to your instincts and went through his bags. You found what he had stashed there because you knew something was wrong. Now he is seeing what the adult system is like. Chances are he won't like it, but it won't be bad enough to scare him off of drugs. If it was that bad, lots more people would quit using after going to jail. And then some lawyer would sue the jail for being too mean. </p><p></p><p>Do whatever you can to be nice to yourself and to your husband. And don't forget to do something to let some of the anger out. Scream into a pillow if you have to! It is normal to be really angry in this situation. Don't let it tear your marriage apart if you can help it. Direct it onto inanimate objects that you don't cherish if you can. If you don't let it out, it can eat you alive.</p><p></p><p>(((((hugs))))) I am so sorry that this had to happen.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 723495, member: 1233"] I am so sorry he abused you and your trust like this. I am glad he used the manipulation of suicide threats because it meant the police had to go find him. He thought it meant a cushy hospital and no consequences. You don't get that as an adult if you have broken the law. I hope nobody bails him out. Please don't be hard on yourself. You can only do the best you can with the information you have. You listened to your instincts and went through his bags. You found what he had stashed there because you knew something was wrong. Now he is seeing what the adult system is like. Chances are he won't like it, but it won't be bad enough to scare him off of drugs. If it was that bad, lots more people would quit using after going to jail. And then some lawyer would sue the jail for being too mean. Do whatever you can to be nice to yourself and to your husband. And don't forget to do something to let some of the anger out. Scream into a pillow if you have to! It is normal to be really angry in this situation. Don't let it tear your marriage apart if you can help it. Direct it onto inanimate objects that you don't cherish if you can. If you don't let it out, it can eat you alive. (((((hugs))))) I am so sorry that this had to happen. [/QUOTE]
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