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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 702571" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Hi Okie Girl.</p><p></p><p>There is no right answer. He is in a mess. There is no right answer to a mess. More money, less money is not the point. That is what we all seem to do. Think that there is a right thing we can do, should do--and that way try to take responsibility for, and control circumstances that are horrific. Especially for us.</p><p></p><p>I think the magazines are a great idea. As are books. You can have them sent directly by book sellers to the prison.</p><p></p><p>As far as the quantity of money--I would not send money if it were me. What I might do is send a quarterly "package." He can get himself in some trouble with that too but I would make it for a small amount of money. There are vendors that will ship his chosen items which he orders through a catalog. Nice hygiene items. Snack foods. Specialty food items like coffee and tea that will come every few months like a care package.</p><p></p><p>Or what I would love to do is to buy and send materials to support a hobby. Lots of men take up drawing or some craft. They crave paints or colored pencils or good paper.</p><p></p><p>A TV is always great to have. Or good earphones and a CD player. You could arrange to purchase this for him through the prison because they are specially constructed and searched so as to not conceal weapons or drugs.</p><p></p><p>The other thing I might consider if he is interested is helping him pay for college books and correspondence courses if he is interested. But that is my weak link with my own son. I am always pushing college on him and I keep having it blow up in my face. One such blow up was brought me here to CD 18 months ago!!</p><p></p><p>Take care. You are doing great.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 702571, member: 18958"] Hi Okie Girl. There is no right answer. He is in a mess. There is no right answer to a mess. More money, less money is not the point. That is what we all seem to do. Think that there is a right thing we can do, should do--and that way try to take responsibility for, and control circumstances that are horrific. Especially for us. I think the magazines are a great idea. As are books. You can have them sent directly by book sellers to the prison. As far as the quantity of money--I would not send money if it were me. What I might do is send a quarterly "package." He can get himself in some trouble with that too but I would make it for a small amount of money. There are vendors that will ship his chosen items which he orders through a catalog. Nice hygiene items. Snack foods. Specialty food items like coffee and tea that will come every few months like a care package. Or what I would love to do is to buy and send materials to support a hobby. Lots of men take up drawing or some craft. They crave paints or colored pencils or good paper. A TV is always great to have. Or good earphones and a CD player. You could arrange to purchase this for him through the prison because they are specially constructed and searched so as to not conceal weapons or drugs. The other thing I might consider if he is interested is helping him pay for college books and correspondence courses if he is interested. But that is my weak link with my own son. I am always pushing college on him and I keep having it blow up in my face. One such blow up was brought me here to CD 18 months ago!! Take care. You are doing great. [/QUOTE]
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