My son just contacted me through facebook and said he needed groceries and asked If I could help him!!! I know enough to know NOT to help him, he is not working and I am pretty sure he has not gone to look for work, just laying around at his friends house..SO, hubs and I have bouced back some ideas on how to respond but I want to make it positive and not hateful...I do not want to sound like a jerk, but yet I want to get a point across BECAUSE I do not want to set a presidence (sp) for future request and him thinking I am going to keep helping him! I thought about answering with something like "No. But I hope a job comes along soon so you do not have this problem again"...or what do you guys think?