I have been lucky. Until now, my son (20) has not given me a bad day. Easy to raise, polite, well liked,respectful , kind, intelligent, loved school. Has been far away in college and been successful at establishing his independence. He comes home only during winterbreak, but we communicate by phone and or email 2-4 times a month. Recently he has his first girlfriend who I met during winter break. Last month I noticed a handful of bizarre photos posted on both of their Facebook pages. I was shocked. Without thought emailed asking WHY they would want the world to see these. I asked if they were producing horror films. I should NOT have asked that but the images were beyond disturbing and I feared that they could harm their futures if seen by the wrong person. Half and hour later they removed the images. I followed up with a thank you, apologizing that I got so upset, and then went on to normal conversation. It has been 4 weeks not and I have NO communication . I have called, emailed, texted and even asked that he PLEASE just let me know he is allright. NOTHING from either of them. A few weeks prior my son emailed me with the news that he was hired for his first choice summer job, adding a "thanks mom " he knows he would never be where he is today, if not for my giving him direction. It was really beautiful, but I guess he's forgotten all of that. The last email I sent last week reads: Dear _______, Do you think that it is fair for one regrettable incident for which I've apologized, to quash 20 years ongoing unconditional love and kindness? Love, Mom I have NO reply. He is my only child and this is far beyond what I had ever expected . Do one thing "wrong " and thats it ??? So Im still confused as to what I did that was SOO terrible, especially since I apologized for coming down so hard. I have been devestated by this , unable to sleep, or concentrate on anything else. I dont want to call or email any more as that is not proving to get results. Is he gone forever?