Just an update. Son is sober now for 6 months. Has 40ish days left in inpatient treatment. Now we found out the other day that he has a warrant for his arrest when he gets out of rehab, and was told by his probation officer to enjoy one half of a weekend with his daughter (he gets out on a saturday) and to turn himself in on Monday, that he is going to prison for up to 24 months. Of course, Son is freaking out. He is somewhat back to his "sick" thinking. He told me he is very likely to "run" to another state 4000 miles away and start fresh. He's mildly trying to get me to get him an attorney, but he knows better and that I will not do that, so the complaining is at a minimum. You know, veiled threats and that... My thoughts and statements are OK, it's your choice....not what I would say is a sane choice, but your choice...I told him that I love him and I would always only be a phone call away (my "go to" statement), but that I will not be encouraging that or helping financially). Feeling OK myself. In the end, he will do what he wants to do anyway. I remain only a phone call away, even though I will only support emotionally, and lovingly. I love him so much, and I am proud that he is changing somewhat...but ultimately, this is his life to live the way he sees fit. On a lighter hearted note, I met a woman, who is very much in the same boat as I am, as many of us are, with a conduct disordered son...we are having a get together for dinner Thursday night. The "Universe" is working in my favor again, and I am grateful. Turns out a lot of possible good can come from this...perhaps even a beginning of friendship that will help bring more awareness to mental health and drug diseased minds...has to do with the field she works in mixing in with people I know who have a built in platform to bring about more awareness...long story, but who knows...it all starts with planting seeds in the right places... Feeling grateful and loving, even though it's a tough life, brewing up storms, the storms stay at a distance for now. I also get to go pick up happy face, sweet angel grand baby the 23rd. And, even better, the baby's mom is so far staying on medications and seems to be doing better for now. It's amazing how quiet she gets while on her medications. I have had some quiet days without hearing nastiness from her...for now it's just Son still having to answer to his recent past behavior and his yapping mouth.