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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 534138" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Hi, I'm so sorry this is where things have risen to. I have called 911 for lesser offenses--we go straight to a mental health evaluation, my son will throw rocks from outside at me and the house and scream and yell. Check around so you know which hospital you feel is best (if you have choices) and plan for a placement in case you will need it (personally I think you do, but of course that is your call and I will support your plan). Any serious aggressive behavior means far more than weekly talk sessions are needed. They need intensive support. medications are not a choice if he is that impulsive, it is a safety issue and if he refuses then he needs to be somewhere where they can insist. My sister has her son go to the nurses office first thing in the morning and the nurse gives them to him, he doesn't play games there, he was throwing them out at home--some kids would still refuse, but just tossing it out there in case he does better in school than home. That you notice a pattern in his moods/behavior could be significant (the timing of his moods....people who know bipolar may have more insight into this). Bipolar looks so different in children. And it is different from person to person anyway.</p><p></p><p>Please call today and let them know he is in crisis, your son is being violent, dont sugar coat it...let them know he could have killed your daughter and he pulled a knife on you. do this before it i s out of your hands because someone is hurt. If your daughter is hurt and you have not protected her it could be on you, even though we know it is his illness, it just depends where you live. You may have to show that you have done everything in your power to avoid it. If your daughter reports this at school by the way, you may hear from CPS soon. I am not saying this to scare you but to prepare you so you are not blindsided.</p><p></p><p>While doing that, please collect all sharps...scissors, razors, knives (even butter knives... a child with autism was killed because he came at a police officer with a butter knife when they were in his house to deescalate a situation, they knew he was autistic but shot him anyway). I have all of mine (and once in a while I get caught forgetting, but in general)....they are all locked up. Yes, it is a hassle. I do buy plastic silverware in case he wants to spread peanut butter himself, etc.</p><p></p><p>I also have all sporting equipment put away, no bats, tennis rackets, etc. sitting around where he could impulsively grab it.</p><p></p><p>Again, just MHO, but I'd also not risk his going to camp. Even if he mostly only does this at home, that is a long time away and for now he could b e using home as his release. If he is gone for an extended time, he may still blow there. If he hurts someone, you will feel terrible. (you never know if a counselor is going to rub him wrong or if another kid is going to irritate him, etc. Lots goes on at camps and they can be wonderful but kids are not always supervised well, what you are dealing with is far too serious). (A camp for kids with emotional-behavioral issues may be different though???)</p><p></p><p>My heart goes out to you. I have finally had a few weeks of reduced aggression but not eliminated. This week got a fingernail dig and pinch....Last week a kicking session when his schedule got mixed up. Still getting shoved into especially when he is excited. We have Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) people and school people working on this hours and hours every day. It is intensive yet still goes on. </p><p></p><p>Your son must be feeling awful inside. No matter what the cause, for his own sake (not wanting him in juvie or prison for years) this needs action today.</p><p></p><p>I wish I had easier answers. I honestly know how hard it is to have to say out loud to strangers that your child is beating the bejeebers out of you and you are afraid he could really do harm. Your daughter needs to feel safe too, I know you realize that.</p><p></p><p>Can you give her a buzzer or some kind of key chain alarm that she can push if she is scared? Maybe do not let her out of your sight for now -- would be better if you could keep him in your sight but he may not cooperate. does she have a locked room (that you can open in case he locks himself in there with her)...???</p><p></p><p>HUGS, Wish there was a magic answer.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 534138, member: 12886"] Hi, I'm so sorry this is where things have risen to. I have called 911 for lesser offenses--we go straight to a mental health evaluation, my son will throw rocks from outside at me and the house and scream and yell. Check around so you know which hospital you feel is best (if you have choices) and plan for a placement in case you will need it (personally I think you do, but of course that is your call and I will support your plan). Any serious aggressive behavior means far more than weekly talk sessions are needed. They need intensive support. medications are not a choice if he is that impulsive, it is a safety issue and if he refuses then he needs to be somewhere where they can insist. My sister has her son go to the nurses office first thing in the morning and the nurse gives them to him, he doesn't play games there, he was throwing them out at home--some kids would still refuse, but just tossing it out there in case he does better in school than home. That you notice a pattern in his moods/behavior could be significant (the timing of his moods....people who know bipolar may have more insight into this). Bipolar looks so different in children. And it is different from person to person anyway. Please call today and let them know he is in crisis, your son is being violent, dont sugar coat it...let them know he could have killed your daughter and he pulled a knife on you. do this before it i s out of your hands because someone is hurt. If your daughter is hurt and you have not protected her it could be on you, even though we know it is his illness, it just depends where you live. You may have to show that you have done everything in your power to avoid it. If your daughter reports this at school by the way, you may hear from CPS soon. I am not saying this to scare you but to prepare you so you are not blindsided. While doing that, please collect all sharps...scissors, razors, knives (even butter knives... a child with autism was killed because he came at a police officer with a butter knife when they were in his house to deescalate a situation, they knew he was autistic but shot him anyway). I have all of mine (and once in a while I get caught forgetting, but in general)....they are all locked up. Yes, it is a hassle. I do buy plastic silverware in case he wants to spread peanut butter himself, etc. I also have all sporting equipment put away, no bats, tennis rackets, etc. sitting around where he could impulsively grab it. Again, just MHO, but I'd also not risk his going to camp. Even if he mostly only does this at home, that is a long time away and for now he could b e using home as his release. If he is gone for an extended time, he may still blow there. If he hurts someone, you will feel terrible. (you never know if a counselor is going to rub him wrong or if another kid is going to irritate him, etc. Lots goes on at camps and they can be wonderful but kids are not always supervised well, what you are dealing with is far too serious). (A camp for kids with emotional-behavioral issues may be different though???) My heart goes out to you. I have finally had a few weeks of reduced aggression but not eliminated. This week got a fingernail dig and pinch....Last week a kicking session when his schedule got mixed up. Still getting shoved into especially when he is excited. We have Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) people and school people working on this hours and hours every day. It is intensive yet still goes on. Your son must be feeling awful inside. No matter what the cause, for his own sake (not wanting him in juvie or prison for years) this needs action today. I wish I had easier answers. I honestly know how hard it is to have to say out loud to strangers that your child is beating the bejeebers out of you and you are afraid he could really do harm. Your daughter needs to feel safe too, I know you realize that. Can you give her a buzzer or some kind of key chain alarm that she can push if she is scared? Maybe do not let her out of your sight for now -- would be better if you could keep him in your sight but he may not cooperate. does she have a locked room (that you can open in case he locks himself in there with her)...??? HUGS, Wish there was a magic answer. [/QUOTE]
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