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<blockquote data-quote="Nandina" data-source="post: 764092" data-attributes="member: 23742"><p>Hi Crayola, his first job was four years ago in an elementary school cafeteria where he helped prepare lunches and assisted in kitchen prep and cleanup. He was there for about 8 months, during the time he was living in transitional housing when he first became homeless due to not wanting to follow our rules, anger issues, etc. At that point, we had determined he could no longer live in our home.</p><p></p><p>The cafeteria ladies loved him and sort of took him under their wing. He was only 18 or 19. At that time, all he did drug-wise was smoke marijuana. I didn’t support that decision but there was nothing I could do about it.</p><p></p><p>But as usual, he did something to screw it up. He kept smoking marijuana on the grounds of the transitional living place. I told him if he was going to do that, take a walk or something—they’re going to catch you! His answer was that no…they didn’t care… Yeah, right. How naive. But that’s my son. They found him with drug paraphernalia and kicked him out.</p><p></p><p>He had it made in transitional living. No rent, was within walking or biking distance to work, lived right next door to his Grandma’s assisted living center so he could walk to family events there, and he had a good support system at his job. He had to quit his job after that because he had no transportation. He became homeless again.</p><p></p><p>Then he started dabbling with meth. He began doing things that were uncharacteristic of him, was charged with various crimes, and spent the next few years in and out of drug treatment and jail.</p><p></p><p>The job he had recently for four+ months was pretty much the first job since then, as a cook in a local fast food place. The manager, his friend’s mom, took him into her home knowing he was a convicted felon, gave him the job as well as trained and even promoted him. She was delighted with his performance and work ethic. Until he blew it again by doing meth and his whole personality changed.</p><p></p><p>He has a very good work ethic, which is pretty much the only thing he has ever learned from his dad and me despite our efforts as parents to make an impression on him. He rejects all else.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nandina, post: 764092, member: 23742"] Hi Crayola, his first job was four years ago in an elementary school cafeteria where he helped prepare lunches and assisted in kitchen prep and cleanup. He was there for about 8 months, during the time he was living in transitional housing when he first became homeless due to not wanting to follow our rules, anger issues, etc. At that point, we had determined he could no longer live in our home. The cafeteria ladies loved him and sort of took him under their wing. He was only 18 or 19. At that time, all he did drug-wise was smoke marijuana. I didn’t support that decision but there was nothing I could do about it. But as usual, he did something to screw it up. He kept smoking marijuana on the grounds of the transitional living place. I told him if he was going to do that, take a walk or something—they’re going to catch you! His answer was that no…they didn’t care… Yeah, right. How naive. But that’s my son. They found him with drug paraphernalia and kicked him out. He had it made in transitional living. No rent, was within walking or biking distance to work, lived right next door to his Grandma’s assisted living center so he could walk to family events there, and he had a good support system at his job. He had to quit his job after that because he had no transportation. He became homeless again. Then he started dabbling with meth. He began doing things that were uncharacteristic of him, was charged with various crimes, and spent the next few years in and out of drug treatment and jail. The job he had recently for four+ months was pretty much the first job since then, as a cook in a local fast food place. The manager, his friend’s mom, took him into her home knowing he was a convicted felon, gave him the job as well as trained and even promoted him. She was delighted with his performance and work ethic. Until he blew it again by doing meth and his whole personality changed. He has a very good work ethic, which is pretty much the only thing he has ever learned from his dad and me despite our efforts as parents to make an impression on him. He rejects all else. [/QUOTE]
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