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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 686964" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Your situation now is reminding me of when I brought to my home my mother who had a very powerful personality, but was failing because of old age and illness. </p><p></p><p>I was reduced to complete passivity and to being an around the clock servant.</p><p></p><p>It is helpful for me to see your situation because I can clearly see that you should not be sacrificed, although I could not and still cannot feel such about myself. I do not forgive myself for insisting that my mother choose an assisted living or board and care home--the only reason being, that I be saved. I never believed myself worthy of being saved, if my mother suffered one bit. </p><p></p><p>I was so wrong. I am so wrong. </p><p></p><p>I do not believe one thing is helped by self-sacrifice to the point one is consumed or destroyed. Your son while he does not deserve to suffer (nobody does) is an adult now. As I understand it, ill or not, he set into motion certain events. You tried whatever you could to right him, without success. </p><p></p><p>I remember a male nurse or PT I forget who at one of my mother's last facilities told me as I was bringing her home again: "You do not have to do this. You really do not." </p><p></p><p>I did it. I had to do it. Intense guilt from decades back baked into my bones, drove me to.</p><p></p><p>I write this post knowing that you will do what you feel you must. </p><p></p><p>I will say it: You do not have to do this, PASA. There are alternatives. Board and care is one. Rehab is another. Has application been made for SSI? SSI and medicaid will likely pay for board and care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 686964, member: 18958"] Your situation now is reminding me of when I brought to my home my mother who had a very powerful personality, but was failing because of old age and illness. I was reduced to complete passivity and to being an around the clock servant. It is helpful for me to see your situation because I can clearly see that you should not be sacrificed, although I could not and still cannot feel such about myself. I do not forgive myself for insisting that my mother choose an assisted living or board and care home--the only reason being, that I be saved. I never believed myself worthy of being saved, if my mother suffered one bit. I was so wrong. I am so wrong. I do not believe one thing is helped by self-sacrifice to the point one is consumed or destroyed. Your son while he does not deserve to suffer (nobody does) is an adult now. As I understand it, ill or not, he set into motion certain events. You tried whatever you could to right him, without success. I remember a male nurse or PT I forget who at one of my mother's last facilities told me as I was bringing her home again: "You do not have to do this. You really do not." I did it. I had to do it. Intense guilt from decades back baked into my bones, drove me to. I write this post knowing that you will do what you feel you must. I will say it: You do not have to do this, PASA. There are alternatives. Board and care is one. Rehab is another. Has application been made for SSI? SSI and medicaid will likely pay for board and care. [/QUOTE]
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