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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 687093" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Oh dear Pasa, I'm just catching up here. I'm so glad he is being placed outside your home. I know you love him and we all get that just because you love someone so deeply and desperately doesn't mean you can or should live with them. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I can only imagine how his being in your home brought it all to the forefront. I don't know all of the details of your life, but I know this: You did the best you could do. Why do we expect perfection of ourselves, more than anyone else? We know people aren't perfect, and we are just as imperfect as the rest of them. We can only do so much. And then when we can, and we know better and we are able to do better, then we do. </p><p></p><p>I think you are speaking of regret (I hope) and not guilt. I regret (wish it hadn't had to happen) that I was divorced and that I nor my now-ex-husband could not find a way to make it work. I don't feel guilt about it because I tried and tried and tried, and turned over every single rock to try to find a way to make it work.</p><p>It is still sad.</p><p></p><p>Please...work to let go of any residual guilt, Pasa. Do what you must to let that go. It only hurts you and holds you back.</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry for your son's choices that have led to this point today. I pray that he recovers more, and that he realizes that life is a gift and he can have a better life if he so chooses.</p><p></p><p>Warm hugs for you tonight. I am just feeling the feelings of reading this thread and hoping you are okay.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 687093, member: 17542"] Oh dear Pasa, I'm just catching up here. I'm so glad he is being placed outside your home. I know you love him and we all get that just because you love someone so deeply and desperately doesn't mean you can or should live with them. I can only imagine how his being in your home brought it all to the forefront. I don't know all of the details of your life, but I know this: You did the best you could do. Why do we expect perfection of ourselves, more than anyone else? We know people aren't perfect, and we are just as imperfect as the rest of them. We can only do so much. And then when we can, and we know better and we are able to do better, then we do. I think you are speaking of regret (I hope) and not guilt. I regret (wish it hadn't had to happen) that I was divorced and that I nor my now-ex-husband could not find a way to make it work. I don't feel guilt about it because I tried and tried and tried, and turned over every single rock to try to find a way to make it work. It is still sad. Please...work to let go of any residual guilt, Pasa. Do what you must to let that go. It only hurts you and holds you back. I am so sorry for your son's choices that have led to this point today. I pray that he recovers more, and that he realizes that life is a gift and he can have a better life if he so chooses. Warm hugs for you tonight. I am just feeling the feelings of reading this thread and hoping you are okay. [/QUOTE]
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