i wanted to go the beach, we haven't been in awhile, every time i bring it up he doesn't want to go. tried to press the issue and then decided that it would just be miserable for me to drag a hostage along to the beach. But i told him "you can't withdraw from every activity going on and then complain that you don't have much of a family". I made him help me fold the mountain of laundry that we've both been washing and piling on the sofa and he was chatting a little and asked if we could go to the movies. So i guess we will go to the movies but i'm glad i pointed out that he needs to participate in the family. He's half of our family!