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<blockquote data-quote="JMom" data-source="post: 685971" data-attributes="member: 19892"><p>Tired, so sorry to hear of your son's struggles. I'm glad the mom softened to allow him to grieve.</p><p></p><p>As far as your son and his teeth, after my brother went to rehab at 44 yo, toothless,alcoholic (he had been without teeth for about 15 years) the family chipped in and got him dentures.</p><p></p><p>It made a huge difference in his appearance, self esteem and ability to find work. He got a job he was proud of and even got his ex wife back. They had been estranged for 10 years.</p><p></p><p>He recently relapsed but is maintaining. I'm a softy, so I'm rooting for your son to get his teeth fixed. I don't know that him having dental work will affect his ability to want sobriety or anything else for that matter.</p><p></p><p>Like my brother, he caused it himself, but I feel strongly that it restores a level of dignity. Self worth is unfortunately sometimes found in the mirror. </p><p></p><p>Do what your gut tells you. If it feels like enabling steer clear, but if you're just giving a kind gesture and are worried about him asking for more, maybe set it up anonymously. </p><p></p><p>Like I said, I'm a softy, so I'd seek advice from the more weathered folks. My son is a 21 yo addict since 14 but I was in denial for a long time. This forum has really helped me learn the ropes. Some things are enabling and some are just things we do for ourselves.</p><p></p><p>Prayers for you and your son.</p><p><img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/semi-twins.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":semi-twins:" title="semi-twins :semi-twins:" data-shortname=":semi-twins:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JMom, post: 685971, member: 19892"] Tired, so sorry to hear of your son's struggles. I'm glad the mom softened to allow him to grieve. As far as your son and his teeth, after my brother went to rehab at 44 yo, toothless,alcoholic (he had been without teeth for about 15 years) the family chipped in and got him dentures. It made a huge difference in his appearance, self esteem and ability to find work. He got a job he was proud of and even got his ex wife back. They had been estranged for 10 years. He recently relapsed but is maintaining. I'm a softy, so I'm rooting for your son to get his teeth fixed. I don't know that him having dental work will affect his ability to want sobriety or anything else for that matter. Like my brother, he caused it himself, but I feel strongly that it restores a level of dignity. Self worth is unfortunately sometimes found in the mirror. Do what your gut tells you. If it feels like enabling steer clear, but if you're just giving a kind gesture and are worried about him asking for more, maybe set it up anonymously. Like I said, I'm a softy, so I'd seek advice from the more weathered folks. My son is a 21 yo addict since 14 but I was in denial for a long time. This forum has really helped me learn the ropes. Some things are enabling and some are just things we do for ourselves. Prayers for you and your son. :):semi-twins: [/QUOTE]
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