Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Sons' girlfriend died in her sleep
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Tiredof33" data-source="post: 687175" data-attributes="member: 13558"><p>Thank you Tanya M, as a cancer survivor you know how stressful it can be! My sister's chemo is going well, it may have given my senior mother something to focus on other than her illnesses.</p><p></p><p>As far as my son, he is self medicating. He has sent me some strange texts and I can't really figure out if he is by himself or staying with friends. each time I have asked he has given me a different answer. He is reaching out to others. Yesterday was hard for him. The mother had no obituary or memorial service for this daughter, just a few brief words by the priest as her ashes were placed by her sister. I thought of sending a card, then decided not to. The mother is a wonderful person, we do not understand either other's methods. Her and her family felt I had abandoned my son, their way was to do everything they could for the daughter. That didn't exactly work out.</p><p></p><p>in my opinion, there is no right or wrong, just what we as parents (loved ones) can handle. My detachment was for my health (both mental and physical) and in my heart I truly believe it is the best for my son.</p><p></p><p>This service was a stark contrast to the sister's memorial and funeral six months earlier. I'm in no way judging, I don't know how she is making it through, I can only imagine the pain. Suicide leaves so many hurts and unanswered questions. I think now she will distance herself from my son, I understand that and I will always be grateful that she did invite him to the service.</p><p></p><p>My son is working, but sent me a text at 10PM that he was going to pack a bag and just leave. I just text him back that he really should give his friend some notice before he does that. Then I watched some TV and went to bed.</p><p></p><p>It's not as hard and soul shattering as it was before I started practicing the process of detachment. His choices are his and nothing can make him go for counseling and treatment. But, we certainly do get pulled back to the edge don't we?</p><p></p><p>Thank you for thinking of me, blessings for you and yours!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiredof33, post: 687175, member: 13558"] Thank you Tanya M, as a cancer survivor you know how stressful it can be! My sister's chemo is going well, it may have given my senior mother something to focus on other than her illnesses. As far as my son, he is self medicating. He has sent me some strange texts and I can't really figure out if he is by himself or staying with friends. each time I have asked he has given me a different answer. He is reaching out to others. Yesterday was hard for him. The mother had no obituary or memorial service for this daughter, just a few brief words by the priest as her ashes were placed by her sister. I thought of sending a card, then decided not to. The mother is a wonderful person, we do not understand either other's methods. Her and her family felt I had abandoned my son, their way was to do everything they could for the daughter. That didn't exactly work out. in my opinion, there is no right or wrong, just what we as parents (loved ones) can handle. My detachment was for my health (both mental and physical) and in my heart I truly believe it is the best for my son. This service was a stark contrast to the sister's memorial and funeral six months earlier. I'm in no way judging, I don't know how she is making it through, I can only imagine the pain. Suicide leaves so many hurts and unanswered questions. I think now she will distance herself from my son, I understand that and I will always be grateful that she did invite him to the service. My son is working, but sent me a text at 10PM that he was going to pack a bag and just leave. I just text him back that he really should give his friend some notice before he does that. Then I watched some TV and went to bed. It's not as hard and soul shattering as it was before I started practicing the process of detachment. His choices are his and nothing can make him go for counseling and treatment. But, we certainly do get pulled back to the edge don't we? Thank you for thinking of me, blessings for you and yours! [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Sons' girlfriend died in her sleep
Top