OMW! I just got back from parent teacher conferences. Met with 3 teachers. Two absolutely gushed over how AWESOME son is. The third.......NOT SO MUCH. Firstly, son had a bad day in science today because yesterday he missed most of the class due to a dr's appointment. He was told he could come in this morning for extra help. I got him to school early, but apparently the teacher wasn't there yet, so he made good use of his time by going to get his laptop. When he returned, she was "finishing up" the extra help session, but agreed to give him 20 minutes. This did not go well because apparently she was going over info he already knew, and since he was pressured for time, well he felt pressured for time. Once he got to class, he was supposed to do classwork based on the lecture. He was immediately stuck and went into shutdown mode and did not do much. When he tried handing in the partial work, she refused to accept it. I had high hopes that the conference would go better than it did. Of course, I was under the impression that this was a caring educator. I reminded her that he gets extended time to hand in assignments. *Well! If that's the case she'll give me a copy of the classwork and he can have all the time in the world to complete it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!* Ah, no, he's supposed to get one extra class period. *Oh! He can have until the cows come home!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!* I explained to her the importance of giving him partial credit for partial work. She seemed to genuinely agree that a 20% was indeed better than a zero, but then added that *if he so much as spits on a piece of paper from now on, she'll be sure to give him partial credit* She had also told me that he' bangs on his desk and disrupts the class and that one kid is actually afraid of him. I asked her if she ever consulted with the sped teacher. *So I'm just supposed to call Mr Q EVERY TIME Son bangs on the desk????????????* I told her I didn't know because I didn't know what was triggering this and that's why she should consult with Mr Q. I then asked her about homework, and currently there is none except to read/keep up with the current chapter. This was mentioned ONCE on the first day. Certainly explains why son hasn't done any science homework. She also said it was in the syllabus (had me second guessing myself, but I knew I could check it because I hung them ALL on the fridge, and guess what? Son NEVER got one! GRRRRRRRRR) So anyway, soon there will be homework assigned and I discussed the difficulties son has with getting HW assignments. *What do you want me to do?* Well, I'm not sure, I don't even know if it will be a problem for him in this class, but if he misses the first one could you please contact me so I know it's not done. I was about to continue to tell her that some sort of structured homework accommodation was going into his IEP at the very next meeting when she cut me off saying *You want me to email you EVERY DAY??????????????????* then later, *OK, you just email me what you want me to do and I'll do it* I tried to explain that that's not what I was looking for, that what I was looking for was for her class to work for son with the least amount of disruption to her and the class. She just was NOT getting it. I got so upset with this woman that I want to say she just doesn't give a rat's patootie, but it's more like she had NEVER had a student with an IEP. EVER. She closed by stating *So, when son bangs on a desk he gets sent to Mr Q, he's got all the time in the world to do his work and anything else you want you email me.* OY! by the way if you didn't get it from the italics and *'s she was being snarky and combative and plain rude. This may have been her attempt at assertive, I'm not sure, but if it was, she fell WAY short. I'm thinking this is not a fight worth fighting and trying to get his class changed tomorrow. I wish I had stuck on that path a few weeks ago when we were discussing the whole lab/group work thing. I'm hoping I can get him switched simply on the basis of this "not being a good fit" for him and avoid going into the details. I still have two more kids that have to go through this HS and don't feel like making waves with a teacher that they may get. Especially one who in my opinion is an obvious witch with a capital B.