Quite frankly I still have no clue what difficult child is but know I have two of them. I do read many of the posts but don't always respond because lately I feel that I am going a bit bonkers and any advice from me would be to RUN, RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN AND SCREAM AS LOUD AS YOU CAN!!! I do hope Bunny has had some relief by now with getting her difficult child in the psychiatric hospital. Daniel, my 11 yr old is doing great at Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and learning alot about himself. His brother and I are going up Sat for a short visit in his cottage and then heading home. His dad, my bio son, was supposed to go but I spoke with the therapist and together we decided that this first visit should not include dear old dad. Besides, he would probably change his mind or come up with an excuse at the last moment and again disappoint this child he brought into the world. In the last 10 promises he has made to this child he has kept maybe 2. Today my 10 yr old puzzle got suspended from school for 5 days so including the weekend he has 7 days of vacation. He hates going to school and got what he wanted there...to be able to stay home...but at home it is a different matter. David was abused in utero with the attempted suicide of bio mom with all neurological pills at 26 wks gestation. Born at 33 wks gestation due to a bad biophysical ultrasound by emergency c-section and spent 2 wks in an Orlando hospital. He has definately been diagnosis'd as an Aspie in the Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) but he has major developmental delays along with what else...have no clue...the specialist in developmental and behavioral called David a "puzzle" as there are many things mixed in there that cannot be determined. David knows the entire world including capitols of all the countries and all the states here in the US. Can draw maps of everything and taught me what pangea is. His favorite books are atlases and his goal is to be a geographer. He is smart as a whip and teaches himself things that he wants to learn but when it comes to school there are problems. He is ESE inclusion with at least 70% of his classmates being without disabilities. He has extra time for tests, less homework and less schoolwork then the other kids. He also has a Social Skills class supposedly led by a behavior specialist. This guy is always calling me to get David calmed down. Today he could not get to the teacher's class fast enough and things esculated. David did not want his female teacher to wear the sweater she had on. Told her to take it OFF NOW. She told him she was cold and needed it. He kept telling her to take it off and yelling at her threats, said he would cut up. At one point she turned her back on him and he punched her in the back with his fist and told her to take the sweater off again. By then SS teacher had come in and took him to his room and called me to come get him ASAP. I turned around from where I was going (to my therapist) and go to the school. An officer is there to take a report from the teacher although she did not file charges. I had the parent advocate meet me there and before she got there I was told...could have been 10 day suspension or even expulsion but we know he has problems and only giving him 5 days suspension. His punishment at home was the loss of all atlases (he has 11), globes (4) and numerous maps that are now locked in my shed. He had a meltdown at first but is so very happy he does not have to go to school. When things had calmed down he came and sat on my lap and I asked why he did not like his teacher's sweater. Get this " Mommy, that lady on the shark movie we saw one day had the same sweater on and she got eaten by a shark". I did inform the asst principal of his reasoning. He was trying to protect the teacher from getting eaten by a shark wearing that sweater (we live inland) but did not know how to verbalize his fears. Whether she would have understand the concept I have no clue. His whole darn IEP talks about managing to get him to do his school work so he can take the FCAT and pass it. Where it asks if any special things are needed....next to positive behavior intervention stratigies it says...NONE NEEDED. Although it just reads that he has Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) on the top if you really read the thing it shows clinical for many other things. I have asked for 3 yrs now that he get an aide that is with him all day only to be told he does not qualify and they have no funding. IEP meeting to be set for when he goes back to school next Thurs and if it does Occupational Therapist (OT) go how I feel it should go I will be heading to the school board and they have no clue who they are dealing with.....ROAR!! Just really needed to vent....they tried to blame these behaviors on Daniel but they have been going on since he began school....just have esculated over the years. Oh ...David has develped tics. He is constantly clearing his throat. No temp, lungs clear but this has been going on for a bit and worsening. Took him to pedi yesterday to have him checked out. All clear. She diagnosis'd a tic and asked if I had noticed the one in his legs. Nope....legs moving involuntarily. So he is a puzzle and the school cannot seem to get the outer edges together.