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<blockquote data-quote="nvts" data-source="post: 352325" data-attributes="member: 3814"><p>Thanks you guys. Marg, I have to agree with you. He's always found one thing after another to allow him to withdraw to the dragons den. During our pseudo-conversation the next day, he confessed that he hated EVERYONE walking the planet. He has no feelings for anyone that runs consistantly, so he retreats into his game.</p><p> </p><p>The game is on the PS3 which allows him to play with other people via the internet. He has friends, clans, etc. that he lavishes more attention to than those that he lived/works with. I asked him (since it's a war game) if he felt that the game allowed him to return to a time in his life when he had no real responsibilities and when his actions impacted only himself and no one else. He looked like a light turned on in his head and said "yes". </p><p> </p><p>In the past it's been ebay, baseball cards, yu-gi-oh cards, texas long hand (no money), uploading CD's, conversations with people (online) that he was in high school with, and others obsessions that allowed him to move backward.</p><p> </p><p>But I can't allow him to scream at the kids, rant when they interupt (which I can't stand being interrupted too - but not enough to spank them over) or even when they play. I can't allow him to criticize every single thing that I do and ignore me the rest of the time. It's cruel.</p><p> </p><p>The sad thing is I know him better than anyone on the planet - and I can't help him. I will promise all of you one thing: there will be no reconcilliation without intensive personal therapy for him and couples counceling for us. Not happening - I'm not living through this ever again NOR will the difficult child's.</p><p> </p><p>I still haven't migrated to the middle of the bed - I'm sure it will come with time, but as every day starts - I'm feeling a little tougher and a lot more comfortable in my own skin.</p><p> </p><p>Again, thank you all for helping me - I'm sure there's more I'll be going through over the next few days/months!</p><p> </p><p>Beth</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nvts, post: 352325, member: 3814"] Thanks you guys. Marg, I have to agree with you. He's always found one thing after another to allow him to withdraw to the dragons den. During our pseudo-conversation the next day, he confessed that he hated EVERYONE walking the planet. He has no feelings for anyone that runs consistantly, so he retreats into his game. The game is on the PS3 which allows him to play with other people via the internet. He has friends, clans, etc. that he lavishes more attention to than those that he lived/works with. I asked him (since it's a war game) if he felt that the game allowed him to return to a time in his life when he had no real responsibilities and when his actions impacted only himself and no one else. He looked like a light turned on in his head and said "yes". In the past it's been ebay, baseball cards, yu-gi-oh cards, texas long hand (no money), uploading CD's, conversations with people (online) that he was in high school with, and others obsessions that allowed him to move backward. But I can't allow him to scream at the kids, rant when they interupt (which I can't stand being interrupted too - but not enough to spank them over) or even when they play. I can't allow him to criticize every single thing that I do and ignore me the rest of the time. It's cruel. The sad thing is I know him better than anyone on the planet - and I can't help him. I will promise all of you one thing: there will be no reconcilliation without intensive personal therapy for him and couples counceling for us. Not happening - I'm not living through this ever again NOR will the difficult child's. I still haven't migrated to the middle of the bed - I'm sure it will come with time, but as every day starts - I'm feeling a little tougher and a lot more comfortable in my own skin. Again, thank you all for helping me - I'm sure there's more I'll be going through over the next few days/months! Beth [/QUOTE]
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