I don't think difficult child and E should get married...at least not until he squares away all the bs with his visitation and support for his boys through the courts. They still live with his parents and it's causing difficult child A LOT of stress and anxiety...she is having regular anxiety attacks, has to take Xanax again and she's crying often...her pmdd is off the charts. I went with her to her therapist tonight and filled in some gaps and conferred with the therapist about diagnosis, etc. Turns out the tcod never told difficult child that she has harmful Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)...she just wondered aloud to difficult child is that could be something to think about. difficult child, of course, heard otherwise. Anyway, there are just so many issues that they need to iron out...I don't see how they will be able to iron out those details and be able to move out to their own place before they marry, so why are they marrying? We are supposed to get together and go over some wedding planning details in the following week...and they want me to help them put together a budget so they can save money for an apt and to pay down debt....would it be wrong for me to suggest they postpone the wedding so they have more time to get their poopy together?