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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 389999" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">I understand the concept of keeping things "even" between the kids, I don't agree with it at all. Ever - not even when mine were teeny tiny, little girls, pre-adolescent, teens, and now young adults. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">I ask for a list from both of them, beginning with small little things all the way to the ridiculous. And then I pick and choose what I will get, share the list with their dad so he can do the same. I sometimes spend nearly the same on each one, sometimes not. Sometimes they open equal numbers of gifts, sometimes/usually not. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">I also try not to allow behavior be a part of my personal joy of giving. Although I completely understand how difficult it is to give someone a gift who is consistently rotten and unappreciative, I try to focus on MY desire to give a gift and based on what I think they should have. So, if they wanted a stereo, but need tires for their car, I would maybe give them a GC to the local tire place. If they desperately need clothes but want that cute trashy outfit from Hot Topic, I would go buy some clothing (even if I knew it may not fit or be their style) at Kohls or Macy's and allow them to return it (without a receipt) so they don't get cash. We have never had issues on Christmas, but we have had issues with difficult child feeling like she was gypped for her birthday - an attitude that we basically ignored until she got over herself. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">We can't tell you what to do or how to handle your personal situation, but like you, I would want to have on hand at least a couple of gifts difficult child could use for Christmas - she may not love them, but at least you did the thing that helps you sleep at night. Also, and you don't have to say it out loud, she helped create this holiday angst, so if she's not happy she has no one to blame but herself. Eventually, she may realize that or be old enough for you to say it without the words sending her into a meltdown. I say plan your holiday that best suits you and your needs. Hugs~I wish they didn't make it so darned hard!</span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 389999, member: 2211"] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]I understand the concept of keeping things "even" between the kids, I don't agree with it at all. Ever - not even when mine were teeny tiny, little girls, pre-adolescent, teens, and now young adults. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]I ask for a list from both of them, beginning with small little things all the way to the ridiculous. And then I pick and choose what I will get, share the list with their dad so he can do the same. I sometimes spend nearly the same on each one, sometimes not. Sometimes they open equal numbers of gifts, sometimes/usually not. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]I also try not to allow behavior be a part of my personal joy of giving. Although I completely understand how difficult it is to give someone a gift who is consistently rotten and unappreciative, I try to focus on MY desire to give a gift and based on what I think they should have. So, if they wanted a stereo, but need tires for their car, I would maybe give them a GC to the local tire place. If they desperately need clothes but want that cute trashy outfit from Hot Topic, I would go buy some clothing (even if I knew it may not fit or be their style) at Kohls or Macy's and allow them to return it (without a receipt) so they don't get cash. We have never had issues on Christmas, but we have had issues with difficult child feeling like she was gypped for her birthday - an attitude that we basically ignored until she got over herself. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]We can't tell you what to do or how to handle your personal situation, but like you, I would want to have on hand at least a couple of gifts difficult child could use for Christmas - she may not love them, but at least you did the thing that helps you sleep at night. Also, and you don't have to say it out loud, she helped create this holiday angst, so if she's not happy she has no one to blame but herself. Eventually, she may realize that or be old enough for you to say it without the words sending her into a meltdown. I say plan your holiday that best suits you and your needs. Hugs~I wish they didn't make it so darned hard![/COLOR][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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