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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 305779" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Nomad</p><p> </p><p>I had to go back and look at difficult child's dxes before I could answer and refresh my memory. I see that she has recovered from a brain anerysm. (forgive misspelling I'm on my 1st cup of coffee still) I don't know how much, if any, damage resulted from this.</p><p> </p><p>Have you considered asking a neurologist about this issue? One of the areas in the brain where Travis has some of his worst damage is an area that has to do with organization. Once his first MRI came back, before telling me the results, the neuro proceeded to describe my son to me. While I sat there with my mouth hanging open unable to believe my ears, he discribed Travis right down to the letter. Well, at least some of the biggest issues we were dealing with, but I hadn't mentioned as I didn't feel a doctor would really be interested in them. </p><p> </p><p>His words: Travis's room is a stye, regardless of any reward/punishment system in place. Doesn't matter how many times you demand he clean his room, beg him to clean his room, bribe him to clean his room, show him to clean his room.......if by some miracle he manages to clean some of it.....it's a stye again in a very short time.</p><p> </p><p>Now there was plenty more, but it has nothing to do with this so I won't go into it now. But this really whopped me upside the head because we'd had wars over his room all of his life.<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/surprise.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":surprise:" title="surprise :surprise:" data-shortname=":surprise:" /> The only way he could ever clean it was if I sat on the bed and directed him until he'd finished. And less than 2 days later..........yeah.</p><p> </p><p>So I asked doctor to explain it. He's seen it so often in his patients that it's common. It has to do with the <strong>organization</strong> part of his brain. The kid really isn't a slob. </p><p> </p><p>So we stopped the clean room wars. If I wanted it clean, I sat on the bed and directed him to keep him on task and from getting overwhelmed with the job. Otherwise I kept my mouth shut. Travis never complained about cleaning.......</p><p> </p><p>I dunno but thought this may perhaps be some of the issue with your difficult child. Travis truely appreciates me helping him.....and the clean room after. He does make an honest effort to keep it clean, but if I don't stay on top of it......it's right back in the same condition in no time.</p><p> </p><p>Which is why I take on partial blame for Travis' room being in the horrid condition it was in. With school I just couldn't keep up with it like I normally do. Now I never do the cleaning part, but he honestly needs someone there to direct him and keep him on task.</p><p> </p><p>Just some food for thought. </p><p> </p><p>The therapist's plan sounds good. But if it's an organization thing, it's just not gonna work even if difficult child wants it to, at least not without constant supervision. And if it's just plain laziness.........I dunno, that's a hard habit to break. But the money may be incentive enough.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 305779, member: 84"] Nomad I had to go back and look at difficult child's dxes before I could answer and refresh my memory. I see that she has recovered from a brain anerysm. (forgive misspelling I'm on my 1st cup of coffee still) I don't know how much, if any, damage resulted from this. Have you considered asking a neurologist about this issue? One of the areas in the brain where Travis has some of his worst damage is an area that has to do with organization. Once his first MRI came back, before telling me the results, the neuro proceeded to describe my son to me. While I sat there with my mouth hanging open unable to believe my ears, he discribed Travis right down to the letter. Well, at least some of the biggest issues we were dealing with, but I hadn't mentioned as I didn't feel a doctor would really be interested in them. His words: Travis's room is a stye, regardless of any reward/punishment system in place. Doesn't matter how many times you demand he clean his room, beg him to clean his room, bribe him to clean his room, show him to clean his room.......if by some miracle he manages to clean some of it.....it's a stye again in a very short time. Now there was plenty more, but it has nothing to do with this so I won't go into it now. But this really whopped me upside the head because we'd had wars over his room all of his life.:surprised1: The only way he could ever clean it was if I sat on the bed and directed him until he'd finished. And less than 2 days later..........yeah. So I asked doctor to explain it. He's seen it so often in his patients that it's common. It has to do with the [B]organization[/B] part of his brain. The kid really isn't a slob. So we stopped the clean room wars. If I wanted it clean, I sat on the bed and directed him to keep him on task and from getting overwhelmed with the job. Otherwise I kept my mouth shut. Travis never complained about cleaning....... I dunno but thought this may perhaps be some of the issue with your difficult child. Travis truely appreciates me helping him.....and the clean room after. He does make an honest effort to keep it clean, but if I don't stay on top of it......it's right back in the same condition in no time. Which is why I take on partial blame for Travis' room being in the horrid condition it was in. With school I just couldn't keep up with it like I normally do. Now I never do the cleaning part, but he honestly needs someone there to direct him and keep him on task. Just some food for thought. The therapist's plan sounds good. But if it's an organization thing, it's just not gonna work even if difficult child wants it to, at least not without constant supervision. And if it's just plain laziness.........I dunno, that's a hard habit to break. But the money may be incentive enough. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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