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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 136065" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I'm a bit late to this thread.</p><p></p><p>Star, that was brilliant. And I agree, he shouldn't have been made to hear that stuff, especially since they clearly weren't doing right by him, trying to handle it in such a heavy way.</p><p></p><p>And you did what a lot of parents need to learn to do - to not only criticise, but give constructive, positive options and cut through the bulldust. Too often a parent sitting there hearing this stuff would either have been successfully deflected from her task of supporting the child and would instead have joined in the "let's bash difficult child" routine; or would simply dissolve into tears or other emotional outburst and again, accomplish nothing.</p><p></p><p>Way to go!</p><p></p><p>However, if what you heard is also their knee-jerk response, then you're going to need to keep close tabs on them to make sure they don't fall back into bad habits.</p><p></p><p>Punishment, if they're going to use it, needs to be constructive, consistent and informative (ie the child needs to know what they did wrong and be given a chance to learn from it; they also shouldn't be punished for something out of their control or something that was triggered by bad handling).</p><p></p><p>Good luck, wear a trench coat and cut a hole through your newspaper for your camera as you sit in your car outside the school...</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 136065, member: 1991"] I'm a bit late to this thread. Star, that was brilliant. And I agree, he shouldn't have been made to hear that stuff, especially since they clearly weren't doing right by him, trying to handle it in such a heavy way. And you did what a lot of parents need to learn to do - to not only criticise, but give constructive, positive options and cut through the bulldust. Too often a parent sitting there hearing this stuff would either have been successfully deflected from her task of supporting the child and would instead have joined in the "let's bash difficult child" routine; or would simply dissolve into tears or other emotional outburst and again, accomplish nothing. Way to go! However, if what you heard is also their knee-jerk response, then you're going to need to keep close tabs on them to make sure they don't fall back into bad habits. Punishment, if they're going to use it, needs to be constructive, consistent and informative (ie the child needs to know what they did wrong and be given a chance to learn from it; they also shouldn't be punished for something out of their control or something that was triggered by bad handling). Good luck, wear a trench coat and cut a hole through your newspaper for your camera as you sit in your car outside the school... Marg [/QUOTE]
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