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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 289259" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>My undx'd husband has money management issues, too. Well, more like impulse control issues, but it really affects money because of how he spends without thinking.</p><p> </p><p>For example, he'll go to the 99 cent store and buy 99 things -- well, maybe not exactly 99, but you get the idea. Without batting an eye, he can drop $100 on things we do not need. He justifies it with the "it was on sale" argument. He's just been laid off his job, and he has declared that because he got a good severence he has no intention of changing his lifestyle simply because he's out of work. So what does he do? He goes out to the video store and buys previously-viewed DVDs for $5 each. A good deal, right? Well sure. But he bought TWENTY. Because they were on sale for a dollar more than they cost to rent.</p><p> </p><p>I have to walk a fine line with him because he is an adult and I am not his parent. He resents anything he perceives as an attempt to control his spending. Doesn't want to have to ask me for money. Doesn't want to be questioned about his purchases. You get the idea. So I've learned to be diplomatic and non-confrontational about his indiscretions. Sometimes he sees the sense in my points. Sometimes he'll do what he darn well pleases.</p><p> </p><p>I DO NOT look forward to the arguments I know we will have once he is retired and we are on a fixed income. All I can say is he'd better get a darn good job that pays outrageously well for the next 20 years or he's going to be an unhappy camper when the reality of our golden years hits.</p><p> </p><p>In the mean time, I'm the one paying the bills and planning for the future. And I just do my best to paint him a very black and white picture about our debt so he gets a taste of reality every so often.</p><p> </p><p>P.S. That's another reason he knows I really, REALLY frown on him going alone to casinos. That's a trainwreck just waiting to happen.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 289259, member: 3444"] My undx'd husband has money management issues, too. Well, more like impulse control issues, but it really affects money because of how he spends without thinking. For example, he'll go to the 99 cent store and buy 99 things -- well, maybe not exactly 99, but you get the idea. Without batting an eye, he can drop $100 on things we do not need. He justifies it with the "it was on sale" argument. He's just been laid off his job, and he has declared that because he got a good severence he has no intention of changing his lifestyle simply because he's out of work. So what does he do? He goes out to the video store and buys previously-viewed DVDs for $5 each. A good deal, right? Well sure. But he bought TWENTY. Because they were on sale for a dollar more than they cost to rent. I have to walk a fine line with him because he is an adult and I am not his parent. He resents anything he perceives as an attempt to control his spending. Doesn't want to have to ask me for money. Doesn't want to be questioned about his purchases. You get the idea. So I've learned to be diplomatic and non-confrontational about his indiscretions. Sometimes he sees the sense in my points. Sometimes he'll do what he darn well pleases. I DO NOT look forward to the arguments I know we will have once he is retired and we are on a fixed income. All I can say is he'd better get a darn good job that pays outrageously well for the next 20 years or he's going to be an unhappy camper when the reality of our golden years hits. In the mean time, I'm the one paying the bills and planning for the future. And I just do my best to paint him a very black and white picture about our debt so he gets a taste of reality every so often. P.S. That's another reason he knows I really, REALLY frown on him going alone to casinos. That's a trainwreck just waiting to happen. [/QUOTE]
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