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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 759752" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Hi Helpless</p><p></p><p>First of all, I am sorry.</p><p></p><p>Second, you are reacting the way we all react in similar circumstances. So, please forgive yourself.</p><p></p><p>Just yesterday what I did was email several online Nar-anon groups. I am facing the same as you. Somebody from England wrote me back. I like this idea to be connected in recovery around the world.</p><p></p><p>We have no control here. None. Our sons set up this domino effect by their choices and behavior. We have no role or responsibility in this.</p><p></p><p>I believe you did exactly the right thing by calling the P.O. I think each of us by trying to help, put our foot in it. I did the same. I have been told that the only thing I can do is detach. I've accepted it. Finally.</p><p></p><p>The police were just here. My son punched M in the face and spat on him. He accused us of robbing him. When the reverse is true.. He threatened to burn down the house. I am sorry that M refused to file a complaint with the police. My son needs consequences. I am calling the police back and I want to file a complaint against my son, if I can, for threatening to burn down my house. At the very least I want him picked up to be evaluated by mental health as a potential danger to others. I will try.</p><p></p><p>Helpless. We are not responsible for the chain of events set in motion by our children. Not you. Not me. The worst-case scenarios are already here. It's to accept that we have no role here except boundaries. I am going to look now to tell you how to access the detachment article.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 759752, member: 18958"] Hi Helpless First of all, I am sorry. Second, you are reacting the way we all react in similar circumstances. So, please forgive yourself. Just yesterday what I did was email several online Nar-anon groups. I am facing the same as you. Somebody from England wrote me back. I like this idea to be connected in recovery around the world. We have no control here. None. Our sons set up this domino effect by their choices and behavior. We have no role or responsibility in this. I believe you did exactly the right thing by calling the P.O. I think each of us by trying to help, put our foot in it. I did the same. I have been told that the only thing I can do is detach. I've accepted it. Finally. The police were just here. My son punched M in the face and spat on him. He accused us of robbing him. When the reverse is true.. He threatened to burn down the house. I am sorry that M refused to file a complaint with the police. My son needs consequences. I am calling the police back and I want to file a complaint against my son, if I can, for threatening to burn down my house. At the very least I want him picked up to be evaluated by mental health as a potential danger to others. I will try. Helpless. We are not responsible for the chain of events set in motion by our children. Not you. Not me. The worst-case scenarios are already here. It's to accept that we have no role here except boundaries. I am going to look now to tell you how to access the detachment article. [/QUOTE]
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