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Spitting, hating, hitting . . . what do you do?
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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 442095" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Hello becklit. I echo ktllc's sentiments - your frustration/despair are completely understandable. Like ktllc, I too feel a little less despairing than I did some months ago (when I too was having fantasies about asking my son's adopted father to take him because I felt I could not cope). I think a LOT of that is to do with being informed. I am much more informed now than I was then - still a long way to go, the learning never stops - and this has led to feeling more confident and less isolated with it. </p><p>An important phrase for me in what you say is "I get so impatient and frustrated with him". Again, completely understandable and personally been there done that (and still go there on a regular basis...) But as you doubtless know, such reactions seem to make these children much worse and one gets hooked into very negative cycles of communication. Something is at the basis of your son's anger and aggression... is it neurological, emotional, a combination? What plans are in place for further evaluations and diagnoses? </p><p>You also have other small children and your energies must be very depleted for dealing with your difficult son. Is your husband supportive? How does your son get on at school? The more you can tell us, the more people here can offer help, advice and just support. Please take a breather and don't panic... there is light at the end of the tunnel.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 442095, member: 11227"] Hello becklit. I echo ktllc's sentiments - your frustration/despair are completely understandable. Like ktllc, I too feel a little less despairing than I did some months ago (when I too was having fantasies about asking my son's adopted father to take him because I felt I could not cope). I think a LOT of that is to do with being informed. I am much more informed now than I was then - still a long way to go, the learning never stops - and this has led to feeling more confident and less isolated with it. An important phrase for me in what you say is "I get so impatient and frustrated with him". Again, completely understandable and personally been there done that (and still go there on a regular basis...) But as you doubtless know, such reactions seem to make these children much worse and one gets hooked into very negative cycles of communication. Something is at the basis of your son's anger and aggression... is it neurological, emotional, a combination? What plans are in place for further evaluations and diagnoses? You also have other small children and your energies must be very depleted for dealing with your difficult son. Is your husband supportive? How does your son get on at school? The more you can tell us, the more people here can offer help, advice and just support. Please take a breather and don't panic... there is light at the end of the tunnel. [/QUOTE]
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