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Sponsor system in 'x' Anonymous. Can someone enlighten me?
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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 606088" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>I have no experience woth GA but I do have a lot with AA, NA and al-anon. Many peopel do not like the spiritual aspect of the 12 step programs and so they come up with lots of reasons why it's not good for them and they have a tendency to look at it through biased glasses and report things that may or may not be true.</p><p></p><p>I have never heard of anyone being appointed a sponsor. Many people going thru AA or NA court appointed are required to follow the steps and get a sponsor, but it is always up to the individual to connect with someone they feel comfortable with. The meetings vary depending on what kind of group it is. Some are Big Book groups where each week a certain passage in the big book is read and discussed. Others are lead meetings where a recovering addict who has been clean/sober for at least a year shares his/her story. No one is ever forced to do this, it is always a voluntary thing and can be quite emotional and gratifying for everyone there. I have never walked out of one of those meetings dry eyed. Some meetings are discussion meetings where there is a specific topic and members are welcome to join in the discussion.</p><p></p><p>They are always anonymous (even though I have been in meetings where I know people) but first names only are used and no one ever violates the anonymous spirit and talks about what anyone says in the meeting when they are outside. In fact if we meet someone in public that we attend meetings with we do not acknowledge them unless they are alone.</p><p></p><p>There were some al-anon groups I did not connect with because of how they were run or their structure, but I have never been to a NA or AA meeting which was not extrememly helpful and accepting of everyone. However I also know of many people who are forced to go to the meetings and they do not participate and find a reason to stop going quickly. The hope is that maybe just one will hear something there that will cause them to want to come back, that they will connect with just one other person that they can call on for support, that they find a community that understands and does not judge them. But of course if your difficult child is not comfortable in this surrounding he is not going to be open to hear anything they say. That is why they say to go to many different meetings all over, so that you will find a group that you do connect with. If there are no others around him that will not be possible.</p><p></p><p>I don't want to be negative but I don't think your difficult child is going to get anything out of this program because it is not the right fit for him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 606088, member: 59"] I have no experience woth GA but I do have a lot with AA, NA and al-anon. Many peopel do not like the spiritual aspect of the 12 step programs and so they come up with lots of reasons why it's not good for them and they have a tendency to look at it through biased glasses and report things that may or may not be true. I have never heard of anyone being appointed a sponsor. Many people going thru AA or NA court appointed are required to follow the steps and get a sponsor, but it is always up to the individual to connect with someone they feel comfortable with. The meetings vary depending on what kind of group it is. Some are Big Book groups where each week a certain passage in the big book is read and discussed. Others are lead meetings where a recovering addict who has been clean/sober for at least a year shares his/her story. No one is ever forced to do this, it is always a voluntary thing and can be quite emotional and gratifying for everyone there. I have never walked out of one of those meetings dry eyed. Some meetings are discussion meetings where there is a specific topic and members are welcome to join in the discussion. They are always anonymous (even though I have been in meetings where I know people) but first names only are used and no one ever violates the anonymous spirit and talks about what anyone says in the meeting when they are outside. In fact if we meet someone in public that we attend meetings with we do not acknowledge them unless they are alone. There were some al-anon groups I did not connect with because of how they were run or their structure, but I have never been to a NA or AA meeting which was not extrememly helpful and accepting of everyone. However I also know of many people who are forced to go to the meetings and they do not participate and find a reason to stop going quickly. The hope is that maybe just one will hear something there that will cause them to want to come back, that they will connect with just one other person that they can call on for support, that they find a community that understands and does not judge them. But of course if your difficult child is not comfortable in this surrounding he is not going to be open to hear anything they say. That is why they say to go to many different meetings all over, so that you will find a group that you do connect with. If there are no others around him that will not be possible. I don't want to be negative but I don't think your difficult child is going to get anything out of this program because it is not the right fit for him. [/QUOTE]
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