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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar I" data-source="post: 47290" data-attributes="member: 3755"><p>Well, when husband and I would go away somewhere?</p><p></p><p>We literally hated one another.</p><p></p><p>I remember one time waking up in our bed? Amd I was lying there, thinking how disgusted I was with husband? And I turned over to give him the old evil eye while he was sleeping?</p><p></p><p>And guess who was already giving ME the evil eye because he thougt I was asleep and would never know?!?</p><p></p><p> :rofl:</p><p></p><p>Yep.</p><p></p><p>It was my husband who forced me to go away ~ I never wanted to leave the kids.</p><p></p><p>If you cannot go away together, can you have Happy Hour together?</p><p></p><p>That was the other thing that saved our relationship.</p><p></p><p>Happy Hour.</p><p></p><p>I have posted all this before, but just in case you haven't seen it.... </p><p></p><p>Happy Hour was our time to reconnect. In order to create a sense of isolation when we could not get away, we picked a piece of music having nothing to do with the present, and played it everyday at Happy Hour.</p><p></p><p>For us, that was Dean Martin.</p><p></p><p>And you would be surprised how well that all worked.</p><p></p><p>The other thing that helped us was to say it, straight out, that we needed to do what we could to save the relationship.</p><p></p><p>Kiss your husband hard when he first comes home, whether you want to or not. Ten seconds ~ and whatever your brain is telling you about him will be forgotten in what your body begins to tell you. I am not even talking about sex. I am talking about that initial attraction.</p><p></p><p>You can bring all that back.</p><p></p><p>You can make your marriage a place of sanctuary for both yourself and your husband.</p><p></p><p>You need to have that as a goal, first.</p><p></p><p>The rest will follow naturally.</p><p></p><p>Wishing you and your husband well ~ I know how impossibly hard what you are going through can be on a marriage.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar I, post: 47290, member: 3755"] Well, when husband and I would go away somewhere? We literally hated one another. I remember one time waking up in our bed? Amd I was lying there, thinking how disgusted I was with husband? And I turned over to give him the old evil eye while he was sleeping? And guess who was already giving ME the evil eye because he thougt [b] [/b] I [b] [/b] was asleep and would never know?!? [img]:rofl:[/img] Yep. It was my husband who forced me to go away ~ I never wanted to leave the kids. If you cannot go away together, can you have Happy Hour together? That was the other thing that saved our relationship. Happy Hour. I have posted all this before, but just in case you haven't seen it.... Happy Hour was our time to reconnect. In order to create a sense of isolation when we could not get away, we picked a piece of music having nothing to do with the present, and played it everyday at Happy Hour. For us, that was Dean Martin. And you would be surprised how well that all worked. The other thing that helped us was to say it, straight out, that we needed to do what we could to save the relationship. Kiss your husband hard when he first comes home, whether you want to or not. Ten seconds ~ and whatever your brain is telling you about him will be forgotten in what your body begins to tell you. I am not even talking about sex. I am talking about that initial attraction. You can bring all that back. You can make your marriage a place of sanctuary for both yourself and your husband. You need to have that as a goal, first. The rest will follow naturally. Wishing you and your husband well ~ I know how impossibly hard what you are going through can be on a marriage. Barbara [/QUOTE]
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