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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 321894" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Thanks for the info risnights. I refuse to be difficult child's payee. I provide oversight but I can not be responsible for his spending. I go along to be difficult child's memory and help him keep track. difficult child is and has been to the office on his own. </p><p></p><p>I do understand that SSDI is a completely different and the rules are not so invasive. He has not paid into that system yet. He has never worked a full 40hr week without disasterous results. </p><p></p><p>risnights, your info is pretty much how I felt about this situation. It's basically a "free" handout. I am not at all pleased that difficult child is on this but he has not proven he can hold a job due to his very serious learning disabilities and difficulty with dealing with the general public, but we are working on getting him out of the program. </p><p></p><p>Because he does not have a payee he should be treated as an independent adult who rents a room from a relative. </p><p>Our finances are not any of their business but they are able to acquire it easily enough because.. well they can. </p><p></p><p>I don't want difficult child to have anything that he shouldn't have but he should have what he qualifies for. </p><p></p><p>risnights thank you for the clearer explanation. Part of the problem is that the wording in their letters is difficult to decipher. </p><p></p><p>Compassion, good luck. difficult child hasn't had the full amount for quite a while. It was reduced by 1/3 last year. In addition they have reduced it further due to this overpayment when he worked part time out of state. </p><p></p><p>Oh well, being treated as a criminal must be the norm. I will work harder at keeping records for difficult child although I don't really want to be that involved. He doesn't have 1 pay stub. He is oblivious that he had to keep them. You would think the program would have worked with him about those things. </p><p></p><p>I just get so frustrated that I seem to be accountable for things others including difficult child are supposed to be responsible for. </p><p></p><p>Thanks again everyone for the info and support. </p><p>The pencil neck hopefully is the anomaly and the rest are decent people who are trying to help weed through the rules. </p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/bag.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":bag:" title="bag :bag:" data-shortname=":bag:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 321894, member: 3"] Thanks for the info risnights. I refuse to be difficult child's payee. I provide oversight but I can not be responsible for his spending. I go along to be difficult child's memory and help him keep track. difficult child is and has been to the office on his own. I do understand that SSDI is a completely different and the rules are not so invasive. He has not paid into that system yet. He has never worked a full 40hr week without disasterous results. risnights, your info is pretty much how I felt about this situation. It's basically a "free" handout. I am not at all pleased that difficult child is on this but he has not proven he can hold a job due to his very serious learning disabilities and difficulty with dealing with the general public, but we are working on getting him out of the program. Because he does not have a payee he should be treated as an independent adult who rents a room from a relative. Our finances are not any of their business but they are able to acquire it easily enough because.. well they can. I don't want difficult child to have anything that he shouldn't have but he should have what he qualifies for. risnights thank you for the clearer explanation. Part of the problem is that the wording in their letters is difficult to decipher. Compassion, good luck. difficult child hasn't had the full amount for quite a while. It was reduced by 1/3 last year. In addition they have reduced it further due to this overpayment when he worked part time out of state. Oh well, being treated as a criminal must be the norm. I will work harder at keeping records for difficult child although I don't really want to be that involved. He doesn't have 1 pay stub. He is oblivious that he had to keep them. You would think the program would have worked with him about those things. I just get so frustrated that I seem to be accountable for things others including difficult child are supposed to be responsible for. Thanks again everyone for the info and support. The pencil neck hopefully is the anomaly and the rest are decent people who are trying to help weed through the rules. :bag: [/QUOTE]
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