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<blockquote data-quote="Sunlight" data-source="post: 93536" data-attributes="member: 97"><p>I have never seen a moderator lock a post simply because the poster needed more reassurance, more input, wanted to talk more about her feelings and the subject torturing her. I would think the moderator would be the one to caution posters to be more kind, patient and supportive. </p><p></p><p>if patience is thin, why should they answer her at all? those with thin patience should simply let it be and go be supportive to someone who doesnt try your patience. how do you think psychologists and counselors feel when they continue to prod their clients to move on or give helpful suggestions that are not heeded simply because the person needs more time?? can you imagine a counselor losing patience in listening to a person in need? I would think they would continue to encourage baby steps rather than squash the person.</p><p></p><p>I repeat:</p><p>this board is to support, not to condemn. <strong>I know I was PM'd by several moms too fearful to publicly speak out after watching a poster be put down or made to feel even worse than when they first came onboard.</strong> </p><p>I would hate to see already hurt folks go underground and not get as much input as possible without being intimidated. how many other "Susans" are out there reading the posts, and then not coming forth after seeing harsh words directed to her???</p><p></p><p></p><p>going to PM robs others in the same scenario who might benefit from seeing someone else's journey. intimidating a person already beaten down only makes them stop expressing, only adds to their pain. </p><p></p><p>for those who have never had a child in jail, you cannot possibly understand the pain and sadness, the mix of emotions, the sound of their voice on the phone, the begging they do to have you visit. perhaps this board needs a forum for those with people in jail. </p><p></p><p>yes their actions made them get there in the first place, it takes a lot to turn off our natural parenting instincts and allow your child to feel the pain so they can learn. it is also frustrating from the perspective of a parent to see no results from their incarceration. </p><p></p><p>No high horse here, no stabs, no snide comments-not my style. </p><p>perhaps just tired and shocked to see the tone of some of the words put out here lately on this board. I am simply asking that Susan <em>and any others who need to speak</em> be allowed to voice all their concerns as long as they need to. here on the board, not hiding for fear of being shut off.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sunlight, post: 93536, member: 97"] I have never seen a moderator lock a post simply because the poster needed more reassurance, more input, wanted to talk more about her feelings and the subject torturing her. I would think the moderator would be the one to caution posters to be more kind, patient and supportive. if patience is thin, why should they answer her at all? those with thin patience should simply let it be and go be supportive to someone who doesnt try your patience. how do you think psychologists and counselors feel when they continue to prod their clients to move on or give helpful suggestions that are not heeded simply because the person needs more time?? can you imagine a counselor losing patience in listening to a person in need? I would think they would continue to encourage baby steps rather than squash the person. I repeat: this board is to support, not to condemn. [b]I know I was PM'd by several moms too fearful to publicly speak out after watching a poster be put down or made to feel even worse than when they first came onboard.[/b] I would hate to see already hurt folks go underground and not get as much input as possible without being intimidated. how many other "Susans" are out there reading the posts, and then not coming forth after seeing harsh words directed to her??? going to PM robs others in the same scenario who might benefit from seeing someone else's journey. intimidating a person already beaten down only makes them stop expressing, only adds to their pain. for those who have never had a child in jail, you cannot possibly understand the pain and sadness, the mix of emotions, the sound of their voice on the phone, the begging they do to have you visit. perhaps this board needs a forum for those with people in jail. yes their actions made them get there in the first place, it takes a lot to turn off our natural parenting instincts and allow your child to feel the pain so they can learn. it is also frustrating from the perspective of a parent to see no results from their incarceration. No high horse here, no stabs, no snide comments-not my style. perhaps just tired and shocked to see the tone of some of the words put out here lately on this board. I am simply asking that Susan [i]and any others who need to speak[/i] be allowed to voice all their concerns as long as they need to. here on the board, not hiding for fear of being shut off. [/QUOTE]
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