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<blockquote data-quote="Big Bad Kitty" data-source="post: 129214" data-attributes="member: 3647"><p>Sweetie,</p><p></p><p>you REALLY have to stop beating yourself up.</p><p></p><p>You CAN NOT change the past. There is no what if. What has happened has ALREADY happened. PLEASE give yourself a break.</p><p></p><p>The fact that you are stuck in your circular thinking about what might have been, had you done this or that differently, is directly part of the cause that you cannot detach from him. Girl, you have GOT to let go. Bring this specifically up at an AlAnon meeting, or are you seeing a therapist? You need to get past this so that you can move forward.</p><p></p><p>I love hearing from you when you have spent time with your family and you have put the difficult child issues out of your mind. </p><p>*note, I did not say you stopped loving and caring about him. You just stopped obsessing.*</p><p>You are so on your way, but I think this is a big stumbling block for you.</p><p></p><p>Hugs hugs hugs!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Big Bad Kitty, post: 129214, member: 3647"] Sweetie, you REALLY have to stop beating yourself up. You CAN NOT change the past. There is no what if. What has happened has ALREADY happened. PLEASE give yourself a break. The fact that you are stuck in your circular thinking about what might have been, had you done this or that differently, is directly part of the cause that you cannot detach from him. Girl, you have GOT to let go. Bring this specifically up at an AlAnon meeting, or are you seeing a therapist? You need to get past this so that you can move forward. I love hearing from you when you have spent time with your family and you have put the difficult child issues out of your mind. *note, I did not say you stopped loving and caring about him. You just stopped obsessing.* You are so on your way, but I think this is a big stumbling block for you. Hugs hugs hugs! [/QUOTE]
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