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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 359586" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>A very good idea for you to report any things like this that you know about. Also take photographs of it so that you have proof of when it happened. If at all possible have the front page of the newspaper in the photo. My dad has done some documentation of things for court cases and having the newspaper is a way to prove the date that it happened. It can be extremely hard to see the date of the paper so having the headline and date showing gives an easier way to verify the date. If it is on a limb, just arrange his arm on top of the newspaper on a table. Take several photos (with and without flash if your camera has that option) from a couple of different angles. </p><p></p><p>Sadly this is just one more way that boys are a different species. Cutting/self injury for emotional issues is one thing. both sexes do that. For some reason it is not uncommon for boys todo stupid things to hurt themselves to see who can take the most pain. It is another way they compete to establish dominance. My bro and cousin (between us in age, raised with us) would compete to see who would bleed the most. I can remember vividly telling them that I bet I would bleed more if I jumped off the roof onto the patio. The patio was made of flagstone and any fall made you bleed. I told them we would do it after my nap, cause Mom insisted I had to go take a nap. (I was about 3 or 4.)</p><p></p><p>The only thing the boys liked more than the who could bleed most game was to make me feel left out or like they got one over on me. They got into a LOT of trouble for being on the roof, for jumping off of it, etc.... It was one of the few times my bro told my parents I did something where they didn't automatically believe me. Lying to say I made them do it got them in more trouble, which was part of my plan. They had been picking on me a lot at that point because I was "a baby".</p><p></p><p>They gloated for years about how much they bled over this or that, or who had the most scars. That Y chromosome does some strange things, in my opinion.</p><p></p><p>The documentation is for YOUR protection. NOT so much difficult children. The court is looking at you, and of course they will weigh any sign of abuse heavily. So make sure you document this with photos and that you do NOT let the "system" know you have documented it unless/until a lawyer who is on YOUR side tells you that it is time to let the judge have the info. Otherwise the court may decide that the act of documenting his injuries is a symptom of paranoia. (We all KNOW it is not paranoia, it is knowing the system is untrustworthy and stupid and targeting YOU instead of difficult child.) Just take the photos to protect yourself. Put them in a file with a write up of what happened and go on about stuff.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry he is showing so many signs of instability and the courts look at you like you are doing something wrong when you try to get psychiatric help for him.</p><p></p><p>[[[[[Hugs]]]]]</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 359586, member: 1233"] A very good idea for you to report any things like this that you know about. Also take photographs of it so that you have proof of when it happened. If at all possible have the front page of the newspaper in the photo. My dad has done some documentation of things for court cases and having the newspaper is a way to prove the date that it happened. It can be extremely hard to see the date of the paper so having the headline and date showing gives an easier way to verify the date. If it is on a limb, just arrange his arm on top of the newspaper on a table. Take several photos (with and without flash if your camera has that option) from a couple of different angles. Sadly this is just one more way that boys are a different species. Cutting/self injury for emotional issues is one thing. both sexes do that. For some reason it is not uncommon for boys todo stupid things to hurt themselves to see who can take the most pain. It is another way they compete to establish dominance. My bro and cousin (between us in age, raised with us) would compete to see who would bleed the most. I can remember vividly telling them that I bet I would bleed more if I jumped off the roof onto the patio. The patio was made of flagstone and any fall made you bleed. I told them we would do it after my nap, cause Mom insisted I had to go take a nap. (I was about 3 or 4.) The only thing the boys liked more than the who could bleed most game was to make me feel left out or like they got one over on me. They got into a LOT of trouble for being on the roof, for jumping off of it, etc.... It was one of the few times my bro told my parents I did something where they didn't automatically believe me. Lying to say I made them do it got them in more trouble, which was part of my plan. They had been picking on me a lot at that point because I was "a baby". They gloated for years about how much they bled over this or that, or who had the most scars. That Y chromosome does some strange things, in my opinion. The documentation is for YOUR protection. NOT so much difficult children. The court is looking at you, and of course they will weigh any sign of abuse heavily. So make sure you document this with photos and that you do NOT let the "system" know you have documented it unless/until a lawyer who is on YOUR side tells you that it is time to let the judge have the info. Otherwise the court may decide that the act of documenting his injuries is a symptom of paranoia. (We all KNOW it is not paranoia, it is knowing the system is untrustworthy and stupid and targeting YOU instead of difficult child.) Just take the photos to protect yourself. Put them in a file with a write up of what happened and go on about stuff. I am sorry he is showing so many signs of instability and the courts look at you like you are doing something wrong when you try to get psychiatric help for him. [[[[[Hugs]]]]] [/QUOTE]
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