witzend
Well-Known Member
Oh, honey... I'm so sorry. You're right to grieve. It's a dream that you invested in for nearly 30 years and it's gone now. It will be a long hard slog. It's funny that I should read this post just now. I was listening to "All Things Considered" today on the radio, and a guest journalist was talking about it being ok to be sad when it was appropriate. Her bottom line was that she was unhappy because of an unexpected painful illness that had gone un/misdiagnosed. People kept telling her to "look on the bright side". She tried to be cheerful for a week, but it only made her feel worse. A friend who is a therapist told her to tell those people,
"Friends, I would like to be more cheerful, but right now I am too terrified to be cheerful. So I will let you know when I am not terrified anymore."
She said that people understood this, and as soon as she said it she began got feel more comfortable with herself, and to know that she would work her way through her trouble. I know that you will do the same.
Here's a link to the broadcast/article, in case anyone would like to read or listen to it.
A positive outlook is overrated
"Friends, I would like to be more cheerful, but right now I am too terrified to be cheerful. So I will let you know when I am not terrified anymore."
She said that people understood this, and as soon as she said it she began got feel more comfortable with herself, and to know that she would work her way through her trouble. I know that you will do the same.
Here's a link to the broadcast/article, in case anyone would like to read or listen to it.
A positive outlook is overrated