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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 467357" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Funny isn't it - as I said to Buddy, when I adopted I had NO idea that I was running the risk of adopting a baby with special needs (because of things like fetal alcohol effects). If my naivety seems amazing, all I can say is that the people that I knew who were adopting at the same time - all in their 40s like me, so you would have thought wise enough to realise - were similarly clueless. I was at least aware of and well versed in attachment disorder and had read "The Primal Wound" and so on. I think... like a lot of people who adopt, I was just so lost in my own desire/need to have a child that I really didn't want to see anything but the realisation of my own dreams... And J is NOT a nightmare. He's full of blessings and joys. But he is hard work and he is different from the norm. Sometimes he is so "good", co-operative and pleasant to have around that I pray that is the side that will come out fighting (not literally of course) in the end.</p><p>Anyway, I digress...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 467357, member: 11227"] Funny isn't it - as I said to Buddy, when I adopted I had NO idea that I was running the risk of adopting a baby with special needs (because of things like fetal alcohol effects). If my naivety seems amazing, all I can say is that the people that I knew who were adopting at the same time - all in their 40s like me, so you would have thought wise enough to realise - were similarly clueless. I was at least aware of and well versed in attachment disorder and had read "The Primal Wound" and so on. I think... like a lot of people who adopt, I was just so lost in my own desire/need to have a child that I really didn't want to see anything but the realisation of my own dreams... And J is NOT a nightmare. He's full of blessings and joys. But he is hard work and he is different from the norm. Sometimes he is so "good", co-operative and pleasant to have around that I pray that is the side that will come out fighting (not literally of course) in the end. Anyway, I digress... [/QUOTE]
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