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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 569444" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Oh, no worries, if ever this happens again, I will certainly deal with it <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> No way I could see my child stealing something and take no action. I'm really not sure how to judge this one. I think a child of six not really understanding it is wrong to steal from shops is proof more of innocence than of corruption - it is hard to explain this and I know many people will disagree! Most people who steal must know it is wrong but just don't care, or care about something else more. It is definitely something J has a tendency to do - there was a time when he was about three when he took a packet of chewing gum from a store and of course the same happened, I took him back and made him say sorry before giving it back. I am concerned about it. But I think I cannot write it off - despite my fear <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> - as meaning that it is now set in stone that J is going to become an irredeemable thief and criminal. I imagine that how it is handled from now on, if there is another incident, will be significant. Sometimes I think that, with children of certain pyschologies, getting angry and being really heavy duty about this sort of thing makes them very convinced that they are bad and it increases the behaviour, out of anger and low self-esteem. But he needs to understand, he really needs to understand, that it is against moral codes and legal codes...</p><p>I've just asked him why he put it in his pocket and he said it was because he wanted to measure things at school...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 569444, member: 11227"] Oh, no worries, if ever this happens again, I will certainly deal with it :) No way I could see my child stealing something and take no action. I'm really not sure how to judge this one. I think a child of six not really understanding it is wrong to steal from shops is proof more of innocence than of corruption - it is hard to explain this and I know many people will disagree! Most people who steal must know it is wrong but just don't care, or care about something else more. It is definitely something J has a tendency to do - there was a time when he was about three when he took a packet of chewing gum from a store and of course the same happened, I took him back and made him say sorry before giving it back. I am concerned about it. But I think I cannot write it off - despite my fear :) - as meaning that it is now set in stone that J is going to become an irredeemable thief and criminal. I imagine that how it is handled from now on, if there is another incident, will be significant. Sometimes I think that, with children of certain pyschologies, getting angry and being really heavy duty about this sort of thing makes them very convinced that they are bad and it increases the behaviour, out of anger and low self-esteem. But he needs to understand, he really needs to understand, that it is against moral codes and legal codes... I've just asked him why he put it in his pocket and he said it was because he wanted to measure things at school... [/QUOTE]
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