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Thank you so much for sharing another picture of Megabean. She is so precious, so adorable...!! I love how alert she is. Wish I could reach right through that picture, pick her up, cuddle her.
As others have said, what works for one person might not work for another. I've always believed that whatever works is the right way. I tried as hard as hard and as long as I could to breastfeed difficult child 1. Even with supplemental bottle feedings, it just wasn't working for us. I switched to total formula. When difficult child 2 was born, (they're almost exactly a year apart,) I decided to start him on formula from the beginning. easy child/difficult child 3 was born two years after difficult child 2. She grew up on formula too. My BFF has four daughters, three of them close together in age. She breastfed all four of them, pumping and freezing breast milk so others could feed them when she had to go to work. None of them were supplemented with formula.
I think it's hardest with your first because no matter how prepared you think you are, having a newborn, while the most beautiful gift in the world, is also very difficult. Newborns are unpredictable, need constant attention, even when you're totally exhausted, not feeling well, etc... It's impossible, to be at your best 24/7 no matter how much you love your child. You are not superwoman!!
Right before our vacation, husband and I went out for dinner. Sitting directly beside us was a couple with a newborn. No sooner had they ordered, then he started crying. His mother tried everything to calm him, nothing worked. Finally his dad picked him up, stood up, tried rocking him in his arms, shifting his weight from foot to foot. The baby kept right on crying. As soon as their dinner arrived, they asked the server to box it up so they could take it home. I bet before they decided to try eating out, their son had been fed, burped, changed, was sleeping peacefully. They probably thought they had a couple of hours before he would wake up. SURPRISE...!
Be easy with yourself. Even if you think you aren't tired, try to rest whenever Megabean is sleeping. Take a long hot shower or bath, read a good book, watch a movie, etc... Try to take care of yourself the best you can whenever you can. I think "me" time is more important than ever now.
As far as thinking about the "what if's?," when difficult child 1 first started bottle feedings, I found a cat hair in one of his bottles. I called my BFF, a nurse in an intensive care newborn unit in a large hospital, frantic, all the what ifs I could think of popped into my head. I couldn't believe how careless I was to let a cat hair get into one of his bottles!! When my BFF heard the story, she started laughing, said not to worry about it, babies are much more resilient then I thought. She said her kids dropped their pacifiers and her husband used to hand them back to them, right from the floor. She was right, difficult child 1 didn't notice the added cat hair. By the time difficult child 2 was born, my standards had definitely taken a nose dive. By the time I had easy child/difficult child 3, difficult child 1 was helping me feed her...
Hope today is a good one for both you and Megabean... Hugs... SFR