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<blockquote data-quote="batzy1" data-source="post: 539636" data-attributes="member: 14888"><p>Hello SuZir,</p><p>Thanks for the welcome. I will try to answer your questions best I can. Last summer was the first time for us to have him so it was a learning experience for both me and my husband. We both work and during the day our son is in daycare and his son is in youth center camp. Last year when we had him, my husband mainly took care of him and I managed our son who was only 13 to 14 months old. I ended up doing a lot of house work too, pretty much everything but taking care of my stepson fell onto me because he was that much work that is all my husband could devote his time too, and my husband was stressed and exhausted. Yes he does behave better in regards to the fact that he's smart enough to know not to let his dad see that he enjoys trying to hurt the dogs or that he intentionally says scary things to freak me out. He is very smart, but luckily his dad has caught him enough that he believes what I tell him. There was one point last year where my husband had to run to the store and he didn't take his son, when my husband came back he started crying as soon as him came in the door and said I had done all this horrible stuff to him and that I said I wanted him to leave, none of which i did and luckily my husband believed me and punished his son for lying. But yes, one of the rules for this summer I told my husband is where ever his son is, then he needs to be too, that he is not to be alone with me, the dogs, or our son. I've done a lot of reading, cause even though my husband may not want to, I try and learn everything I can to help us this summer. He will be here this coming Saturday. I've also told my husband the discipline needs to come from him and it needs to be clear and consistent. He is supposed to talk to him before he brings him back. This is all from advice I've found on line, I give him the information and the tips, whether or not he follows through, I can't control.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="batzy1, post: 539636, member: 14888"] Hello SuZir, Thanks for the welcome. I will try to answer your questions best I can. Last summer was the first time for us to have him so it was a learning experience for both me and my husband. We both work and during the day our son is in daycare and his son is in youth center camp. Last year when we had him, my husband mainly took care of him and I managed our son who was only 13 to 14 months old. I ended up doing a lot of house work too, pretty much everything but taking care of my stepson fell onto me because he was that much work that is all my husband could devote his time too, and my husband was stressed and exhausted. Yes he does behave better in regards to the fact that he's smart enough to know not to let his dad see that he enjoys trying to hurt the dogs or that he intentionally says scary things to freak me out. He is very smart, but luckily his dad has caught him enough that he believes what I tell him. There was one point last year where my husband had to run to the store and he didn't take his son, when my husband came back he started crying as soon as him came in the door and said I had done all this horrible stuff to him and that I said I wanted him to leave, none of which i did and luckily my husband believed me and punished his son for lying. But yes, one of the rules for this summer I told my husband is where ever his son is, then he needs to be too, that he is not to be alone with me, the dogs, or our son. I've done a lot of reading, cause even though my husband may not want to, I try and learn everything I can to help us this summer. He will be here this coming Saturday. I've also told my husband the discipline needs to come from him and it needs to be clear and consistent. He is supposed to talk to him before he brings him back. This is all from advice I've found on line, I give him the information and the tips, whether or not he follows through, I can't control. [/QUOTE]
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