Hi. I am raising my grandson who is 14 and has been diagnosed with ADHD/ADD and OD and then, like the others said, it has progressed to CD. I know how hard this is for you. This is the hardest thing to face every day. We have good days and bad days. Right now, because he is so oppositional, we are having very, very bad days, because in his wisdom he has decided he didn't need medicine. It is next to impossible to force a teenager to take their medications. But we got the little sucker this time. doctor prescribed a pill that "melts" almost instantly so he can't spit it, hide it in his cheek or between his fingers.
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Feels good to get one on him. It can get better. It takes an enormous amount of patience, thick skin and determination. With the right medication it does smooth out some. I know, because we have been there. We are just not there right now. Besides all of these diagnoses, they also have the problem of being a teenager, which is oppositional in itself.
I know for myself, there are days I could pull his head off and roll it out the front door like a bowling ball. But underneath all of this, he is a very sweet young man. This "disease" is very debilitating. It floods the whole family, like a river out of its bank. I would suggest you have your difficult child tested, diagnosed, medicated, whatever you can. I personally hate to medicate mine, but I now know it is a must. He just can't function without it. And finding the right medicine is trial and error. What will work great for one will not work for the other. The one that worked great for my difficult child caused "man boobs". So, had to start all over again. Another thing you face is you can't reason with them. They do not see their behavior as anything but normal, or at least that is how mine sees it. It is always someone elses fault.
At any rate, keep strong. Under the right circumstances, it can get better.