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<blockquote data-quote="daralex" data-source="post: 126991" data-attributes="member: 4467"><p>I'm done! I am so frustrated, angry, sad and all the other emotions that come from dealing with a difficult child. Long story as short as I can make it - difficult child and I have a contract. All that is required of her during the week is to make sure both bathrooms and the kitchen are free from her messes and that no dishes/glasses are in her room. We check once a day to make sure she's followed through and then she is allowed computer time. On weekends it is the normal stuff - no sneaking out, lying about where she is going, drinking, smoking, etc. if tasks are completed daily she gets a daily reward (1 hr extra on computer or 1/2 hour extra cerfew at night - until 8:30 instead of 8, but she always takes computer) I really don't think this is much to ask, but we are now on week 5 and still haven't made it through a week succesfully.<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/Graemlins/919Mad.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":919Mad:" title="Mad :919Mad:" data-shortname=":919Mad:" /></p><p>She got frustrated because she has not gotten a weekly reward yet (anything in the store up to $10) So she says she is just not going to try anyomre. Today she was RUDE(understatement of the year, told me to shush among other things in that highly defined snotty tone she has perfected) and did not get her daily reward (weekly reward is given if she makes it through 7 days with no violations). She can be so mean and uncaring in her comments it is hard at times not to let them get to me - so here I sit crying. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/crying.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":crying:" title="crying :crying:" data-shortname=":crying:" /></p><p>Am I being unreasonable? She has NO household responsilbilties and I homeschool her, so it's not like school is a stressor (except she is with me all day long - STRESS!!) So do I just keep plugging along? Or am I supposed to change something in the contract (which I do not feel I should have to do) I guess I was thinking I would see better results once we started the contract - it seems to help slightly, may be I just need to give it more time??<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/not_fair.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":not_fair:" title="not_fair :not_fair:" data-shortname=":not_fair:" />I just feel very drained at the moment. I feel like I give it my all every moment of every day and difficult child just spits on me. I know tomorrow is another day - this one just doesn't feel so good.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="daralex, post: 126991, member: 4467"] I'm done! I am so frustrated, angry, sad and all the other emotions that come from dealing with a difficult child. Long story as short as I can make it - difficult child and I have a contract. All that is required of her during the week is to make sure both bathrooms and the kitchen are free from her messes and that no dishes/glasses are in her room. We check once a day to make sure she's followed through and then she is allowed computer time. On weekends it is the normal stuff - no sneaking out, lying about where she is going, drinking, smoking, etc. if tasks are completed daily she gets a daily reward (1 hr extra on computer or 1/2 hour extra cerfew at night - until 8:30 instead of 8, but she always takes computer) I really don't think this is much to ask, but we are now on week 5 and still haven't made it through a week succesfully.:tearinghair: She got frustrated because she has not gotten a weekly reward yet (anything in the store up to $10) So she says she is just not going to try anyomre. Today she was RUDE(understatement of the year, told me to shush among other things in that highly defined snotty tone she has perfected) and did not get her daily reward (weekly reward is given if she makes it through 7 days with no violations). She can be so mean and uncaring in her comments it is hard at times not to let them get to me - so here I sit crying. :crying: Am I being unreasonable? She has NO household responsilbilties and I homeschool her, so it's not like school is a stressor (except she is with me all day long - STRESS!!) So do I just keep plugging along? Or am I supposed to change something in the contract (which I do not feel I should have to do) I guess I was thinking I would see better results once we started the contract - it seems to help slightly, may be I just need to give it more time??:not_fair:I just feel very drained at the moment. I feel like I give it my all every moment of every day and difficult child just spits on me. I know tomorrow is another day - this one just doesn't feel so good. [/QUOTE]
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