husband and I both thought we were to pick my parents up at the airport on Tues. We were told that husband was to drive because there isn't room in the vehicle for the kids and they didn't want to ask bro to leave his daughter IF it was his day to have her. Plus he works and husband is off work. Bro clearly called my mom. Then called my house about a dozen times. I heard what he wanted, and then called my parents to verify. They called back, and bro is picking them up - and his daughter (who is thank you's size though only 6) and her car seat will be going with him. Which means that Wiz will have to deal with her at the end of about 24 hours of travel. Poor Wiz. Even asking niece to not shout is taken as "being mean" if Wiz is doing it. Regardless of whether she is shrieking in his ear or not. We kept my dad's car because we were going to use it to pick them up. Have only used it ONE other time, for that matter. I told bro that the car would be returned, he wanted it by a special time so he can clean it. The dirt is just my dad's bank receipts. The only record he keeps of his banking, so I would not toss them. husband had planned to gas up the car just before he picked them up so they would have a mostly full tank when they got home, instead of under 1/2 a tank. I did tell bro that of course he would have to spend HOURS cleaning the car because I am to inconsiderate to return it with gas and surely would leave it full of fleas from my filthy dog. He started to curse and scream and I hung up. He then called my cell. I told him that his calls will not be answered, and his messages not listened to, and not to call my home. I should not have made the dig about the fleas, but sometimes my temper takes over. We have had to do a MAJOR whole house flea treatment after every time he comes over because his dog is always full of fleas. Dog usually tracks mud all over our home too. But that is different. The kids know the number. It comes up with my parents name because my parents pay his cell phone, as well as all his utilities. He was always getting his electric turned off for non-payment and it showed up on my parents credit report, so now they pay it because otherwise he would kill their credit (they own his home because he couldn't even afford a month rent, much less first and last and utility deposits. They also put him on their cell plan because he cannot get a plan of his own and he kept ranting about how expensive pay as you go plans are. He could not get approval from ANY of the cell companies for any plan. I did tell my dad I am sorry for anything we have done to upset or hurt him or mom, that I am sorry that I am such a bad daughter, wife and mother in my parents' eye. Dad clearly thinks this is a bunch of hooey, and that is good. He would say if he thought otherwise. One thing is sure with my Dad. If you ask his opinion you better WANT it, cause you will get it. It is a major reason bro takes his koi to mom. Dad would tell him off. I know things will be rough, but from this point it will be fine to just hang up the phone on him - IF we answer it. He told Jess to take the phone to me unless I was too cowardly to speak to him. He can phrase it that way. All he wants. Jess only answered because the number came up with my dad's name. That # is now blocked from my home phone. I can tell it is in place because I have had 3 messages come up on my cell in the last 10 mins.