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<blockquote data-quote="jbrain" data-source="post: 31003" data-attributes="member: 3450"><p>Hi Mikey,</p><p>only have a minute but wanted to respond. Your son sounds much like my dtr (she is nearly 19 now). We sent her to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) when she was 16 and she was court ordered to drug rehab when she was 17 (she relapsed in between Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and rehab). Anyway, nothing we did seemed to matter til I kicked her out when she was 18 (she had left voluntarily a few months before but returned when she had nowhere else to go). We couldn't have her living with us for a number of reasons but just as importantly, she could not make a life for herself while with us. She was so bent on defying us and manipulating us that it wasn't til she was living on her own that she felt in control of her life. She had to stay in a homeless shelter in our town for awhile but then got an apt. with boyfriend and got a job and while she still seems to be making a lot of bad decisions she also has progressed and knows that she is the one in charge of her life. She actually asks me for advice sometimes! </p><p></p><p>Basically, she seemed to be directing all her energy towards defying us while a teen and while she had to live with us. We found out she is far more capable than we thought once she no longer felt the need to do that.</p><p></p><p>I would say the one of the worst things you can do is let yourselves be emotionally paralyzed by your son--not good for you and even worse for him! I say LET HIM GO</p><p></p><p>Good luck!</p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jbrain, post: 31003, member: 3450"] Hi Mikey, only have a minute but wanted to respond. Your son sounds much like my dtr (she is nearly 19 now). We sent her to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) when she was 16 and she was court ordered to drug rehab when she was 17 (she relapsed in between Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and rehab). Anyway, nothing we did seemed to matter til I kicked her out when she was 18 (she had left voluntarily a few months before but returned when she had nowhere else to go). We couldn't have her living with us for a number of reasons but just as importantly, she could not make a life for herself while with us. She was so bent on defying us and manipulating us that it wasn't til she was living on her own that she felt in control of her life. She had to stay in a homeless shelter in our town for awhile but then got an apt. with boyfriend and got a job and while she still seems to be making a lot of bad decisions she also has progressed and knows that she is the one in charge of her life. She actually asks me for advice sometimes! Basically, she seemed to be directing all her energy towards defying us while a teen and while she had to live with us. We found out she is far more capable than we thought once she no longer felt the need to do that. I would say the one of the worst things you can do is let yourselves be emotionally paralyzed by your son--not good for you and even worse for him! I say LET HIM GO Good luck! Jane [/QUOTE]
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