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<blockquote data-quote="PonyGirl" data-source="post: 31055" data-attributes="member: 187"><p>Hi Mikey</p><p></p><p>Others here are already giving you good advice and support, and I don't have much to add except I see you list ADD in your difficult child's profile, and I'm seeing a lot of ODD in his behavior as you describe it.</p><p></p><p>I have some experience with ODD (which, in case you don't know, is Oppositional Defiance Disorder, the politically correct way to say, 'my kid blows up when he hears something he doesn't like')</p><p></p><p>My easy child has ODD, and even tho it's gotten MUCH better as he's grown older, I see glimpses of it regularly. A <strong>LOT </strong>of my easy child's ODD comes out as a result of <em>HOW </em>people address him.</p><p></p><p>His dad talks to him in a very authoritative way, gives him orders, uses sarcasm, etc., and easy child responds with big disrespect.</p><p></p><p>I approach easy child more of in a partnership type of way, and he does much better with this. </p><p></p><p>When he does blow up, I do not respond to him (that took some practice on my part!) but I let him explode and then he retreats. I do not chase him or holler back. He reappears on his own, in his own time, and more often than not, he apologizes.</p><p></p><p>I will bring up whatever it was LATER, and talk about it with him WAY after the episode has passed. Like, not even that same day, but sometime within the next couple days.</p><p></p><p>I wish you the best in your dealings with your son. I feel for you in your dilemma of what action to take. The point made about getting an HS Diploma not being the most important thing is true. </p><p></p><p>Education <strong>is </strong>important, but if his behavior isn't checked, he won't have much success out there in the real world, anyway. No employer will put up with what you are describing his actions are like. (You shouldn't put up with it, either <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" />)</p><p></p><p>Peace</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PonyGirl, post: 31055, member: 187"] Hi Mikey Others here are already giving you good advice and support, and I don't have much to add except I see you list ADD in your difficult child's profile, and I'm seeing a lot of ODD in his behavior as you describe it. I have some experience with ODD (which, in case you don't know, is Oppositional Defiance Disorder, the politically correct way to say, 'my kid blows up when he hears something he doesn't like') My easy child has ODD, and even tho it's gotten MUCH better as he's grown older, I see glimpses of it regularly. A [b]LOT [/b]of my easy child's ODD comes out as a result of [i]HOW [/i]people address him. His dad talks to him in a very authoritative way, gives him orders, uses sarcasm, etc., and easy child responds with big disrespect. I approach easy child more of in a partnership type of way, and he does much better with this. When he does blow up, I do not respond to him (that took some practice on my part!) but I let him explode and then he retreats. I do not chase him or holler back. He reappears on his own, in his own time, and more often than not, he apologizes. I will bring up whatever it was LATER, and talk about it with him WAY after the episode has passed. Like, not even that same day, but sometime within the next couple days. I wish you the best in your dealings with your son. I feel for you in your dilemma of what action to take. The point made about getting an HS Diploma not being the most important thing is true. Education [b]is [/b]important, but if his behavior isn't checked, he won't have much success out there in the real world, anyway. No employer will put up with what you are describing his actions are like. (You shouldn't put up with it, either ;)) Peace [/QUOTE]
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