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<blockquote data-quote="mom_in_training" data-source="post: 31135" data-attributes="member: 2727"><p>Nobody said that parenting would be an easy task. Mikey you know my current situation with my difficult child and I know this is your worst fear. I wish it on nobody. It seems that he does have all of the control. Hes just dangling that future diploma in front of your eye balls knowing full well that this is something that you really want and using it to his advantage. My difficult child would do really well with her school but then make stupid choices in other areas and think that it was justisfied because she was doing so well in other areas. In her thinking it should be no big deal that she would come home here and there drunk because she was doing everything else that was expected. Sorry charlie. No valid reason for under age drinking regardless. I'm so sorry that you are struggling with the wanting to not let go, Its the fear that stops allot of us from doing the right thing. Its a tough call for any parent knowing that it is a gamble. I know what I would do under the circumstances and am now in the process of hanging in there to see what happens next. You have been given some great advice Mikey.</p><p></p><p>One more thing, Knowing that he is drinking, Why would he still be privilaged to be driving a car? Regardless if he bought it or is paying for it does not matter. The fact is that he has no business driving while intoxicated. He not only is putting his life in jepardy but he is also putting innocent families and children in harms way (They have no choice), Your son does have the choice to drink and drive. Another thought, How would you react if he were to get pulled over and arrested for DUI or even worse get into an accident involving innocennt people. And for the drug use (Pot) Not every difficult child will choose to go any further then smoking pot but unfortunately some do. I have heard for many years that pot is called the gateway drug, Now I can say that I have experienced it to know first hand that the chances of your difficult child moving onto heavier drugs is higher then you can imagine. I the "Anti Drug Queen" now have a Meth addicted difficult child. Never did I imagine that my difficult child would go that far but she has. And the counceling you say he does not want to go. Well I know that you can't get a dead horse to get up but I'll tell ya I would not give him that power, It would not be a choice for my difficult child. The only way counceling would stop is if the therapist decided that your difficult child is no longer a willing participant. Parenthood is a journey with many challenges. Just keep in mind that nobody has the power to change another and that it takes a willing participant for any therapy to work for that individual.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mom_in_training, post: 31135, member: 2727"] Nobody said that parenting would be an easy task. Mikey you know my current situation with my difficult child and I know this is your worst fear. I wish it on nobody. It seems that he does have all of the control. Hes just dangling that future diploma in front of your eye balls knowing full well that this is something that you really want and using it to his advantage. My difficult child would do really well with her school but then make stupid choices in other areas and think that it was justisfied because she was doing so well in other areas. In her thinking it should be no big deal that she would come home here and there drunk because she was doing everything else that was expected. Sorry charlie. No valid reason for under age drinking regardless. I'm so sorry that you are struggling with the wanting to not let go, Its the fear that stops allot of us from doing the right thing. Its a tough call for any parent knowing that it is a gamble. I know what I would do under the circumstances and am now in the process of hanging in there to see what happens next. You have been given some great advice Mikey. One more thing, Knowing that he is drinking, Why would he still be privilaged to be driving a car? Regardless if he bought it or is paying for it does not matter. The fact is that he has no business driving while intoxicated. He not only is putting his life in jepardy but he is also putting innocent families and children in harms way (They have no choice), Your son does have the choice to drink and drive. Another thought, How would you react if he were to get pulled over and arrested for DUI or even worse get into an accident involving innocennt people. And for the drug use (Pot) Not every difficult child will choose to go any further then smoking pot but unfortunately some do. I have heard for many years that pot is called the gateway drug, Now I can say that I have experienced it to know first hand that the chances of your difficult child moving onto heavier drugs is higher then you can imagine. I the "Anti Drug Queen" now have a Meth addicted difficult child. Never did I imagine that my difficult child would go that far but she has. And the counceling you say he does not want to go. Well I know that you can't get a dead horse to get up but I'll tell ya I would not give him that power, It would not be a choice for my difficult child. The only way counceling would stop is if the therapist decided that your difficult child is no longer a willing participant. Parenthood is a journey with many challenges. Just keep in mind that nobody has the power to change another and that it takes a willing participant for any therapy to work for that individual. [/QUOTE]
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