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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 387659" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>J was removed from her mother's home (with cause) maybe 7 years ago now. J's mother will often stay in the home with J, M and F for weeks at a time to visit.</p><p> </p><p>At the time that J was first placed with F and M, I was flabberghasted that they would have been selected and/or approved as guardians. M's issues are ongoing...requiring frequent hospitilizations and there was already a paper-trail about F's alcoholism. </p><p> </p><p>M is not interested in taking care of J by herself - she knows she cannot handle the "difficult child" stuff.</p><p> </p><p>Right now, J is staying with another relative - who feels she cannot handle the "difficult child" stuff either...so I don't think she'll be allowed to live there for long.</p><p></p><p>About 3 or 4 years ago, husband and I offered to be J's guardians - but M was devastated at the thought of letting J live with someone else. And J's mother knew that she would not be able to come and stay with us for weeks at a time...so she was against it. So M and F stayed J's guardians. That was that.</p><p> </p><p>The shame of this whole thing is that J will be 18 in about six months - and now it looks like she doesn't have anywhere to live and may end up in foster care.</p><p> </p><p>I don't know if it would make sense for her to live in foster care in her present community....or whether it would make sense for her to travel hundreds of miles to come and live with us. I don't even know how realistic that would even be any more. J's behaviors are so over-the-top these days...and we already have a difficult child living here as it is. I don't know whether I could handle two lying, sneaking, sex-crazed teenage girls....AND they'd have to share a bedroom.</p><p> </p><p>Then again...I feel like SOMEBODY has to step up and be the hero for that child...</p><p> </p><p>Why not us?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 387659, member: 6546"] J was removed from her mother's home (with cause) maybe 7 years ago now. J's mother will often stay in the home with J, M and F for weeks at a time to visit. At the time that J was first placed with F and M, I was flabberghasted that they would have been selected and/or approved as guardians. M's issues are ongoing...requiring frequent hospitilizations and there was already a paper-trail about F's alcoholism. M is not interested in taking care of J by herself - she knows she cannot handle the "difficult child" stuff. Right now, J is staying with another relative - who feels she cannot handle the "difficult child" stuff either...so I don't think she'll be allowed to live there for long. About 3 or 4 years ago, husband and I offered to be J's guardians - but M was devastated at the thought of letting J live with someone else. And J's mother knew that she would not be able to come and stay with us for weeks at a time...so she was against it. So M and F stayed J's guardians. That was that. The shame of this whole thing is that J will be 18 in about six months - and now it looks like she doesn't have anywhere to live and may end up in foster care. I don't know if it would make sense for her to live in foster care in her present community....or whether it would make sense for her to travel hundreds of miles to come and live with us. I don't even know how realistic that would even be any more. J's behaviors are so over-the-top these days...and we already have a difficult child living here as it is. I don't know whether I could handle two lying, sneaking, sex-crazed teenage girls....AND they'd have to share a bedroom. Then again...I feel like SOMEBODY has to step up and be the hero for that child... Why not us? [/QUOTE]
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