I Know!! Over 10 years of everyone else in the house going and husband with his "I don't need to talk to anyone", finally made an appointment yesterday and went. Of course I had to go with him, he didn't want to do it alone. Silly boy. The psychiatrist gave husband clomenzapam (?) to help with his anxiety. It seems to be helping. At least husband was able to sleep last night without sleeping pills. He's taking one more day off of work just to get adjusted to the medications. husband said he actually is starting to feel more like his old self. And...he's thinking about going back once in a while to talk!! As for me, I LOVE my TCM doctor (Traditional Chinese Medicine). Whatever he put in my herbs this week is better than any anxiety medications I've ever tried. I have a sense of calm and peace that I haven't had in years! And he says I can take it however works for me. 3 spoons 3 times a day or 6 spoons 6 times a day. It's not addicting, has no side effects except that I feel healthier. Of course, the raw herbs mixed with warm water tastes nasty, but it's so worth it. I actually woke up happy this morning! And if I haven't said it lately... THANK YOU to each and everyone of you!! It is so nice to have some place to go where you aren't judges. Or where you don't hear "Your problems aren't that bad, get over it". This board and all you wonderful people have helped me maintain my sanity (what there is of it). Thank You!!