Stress Vent--Please add yours....

[BusynMember]

Ack. Well, I gave my major vent, but we have $$$ problems too. We got behind in our bills when hub was out of work for two months due to a non-work related injury. SURPRISE!!!! When we got our credit card bills (and there weren't that many) so many added fees had been tacked on that we couldn't afford them. Time passes and we desperately need to declare bankruptcy so we can start over, even if that's in seven years.

We can't afford to declare it though. It costs too much!

 

[everywoman]

My freshman class at school is driving me crazy---trust me people, if we are counting on any of these to take care of use when we are older, we are in trouble.

Tripp was arrested for possession a month ago. His dad loaned him the money for a lawyer only because the ramifications of this arrest will affect us in an adverse way.

 

[Abbey]

Isn't life great?

Abbers

 

[hearts and roses]

Isn't life great?

Abbers

Oh yeah!!!

Now easy child is swearing up and down that she paid me the money she owed me two weeks ago. Ummmm, no, she didn't. She paid her rent, a measly $140/month. Puh-leez!!!

 

[Abbey]

Can I come live with you? Geez...$140/mth? I don't make a mess.

 

[bigdmomof3]

Wow I haven't posted here in ages but read the board everyday. I dont really have difficult child issues too much anymore but I still feel connected to some who have been here awhile. But I finally found a post where I actually feel I have something to contribute.

Where to start, I was in and out of the hospital several times between January and May of this year. I had surgery in May only to find out 2 days after surgery that I had Stage 3 colon cancer. I am half way through my 12 treatment schedule but boy what chemo takes out of you! I am unable to work right now. My disability ends the first week of November and I have had to file for Social Security disability. Now I sit and wait.

My youngest son Justin graduated basic training in August from Ft Benning GA. He got married a week after his graduation and now he and his wife are stationed in Hawaii. He is preparing to deploy to Afghanistan. Enough said.

My marriage of 26 yrs has been rocky for awhile but needs to end. Today he told me that he has not paid the mortgage for 5 months and the phone is being shut off tomorrow and I better figure out how to pay the mortgage or move. My parents dont have room for both my daughter and I. My brother can take my daughter and my parents can take me. We really wont be that far away from each other. I dont have the money to move on my own yet and my credit is shot!

So now in the middle of chemo treatments I have to get a storage unit and start moving all my stuff to storage and split up my family. Then file for a divorce. I know in the end I will be better for the trials I am being put through now but darn...can I get a break here?

Thanks for letting me vent. I feel a little better now!

Dee

 

[hearts and roses]

{{{Dee}}} I know you weren't going for the title, but girl, you win.

My prayers will be with you over the next months, as it sounds like you are in for some further trials. I hope you and your daughter are able to maintain a strong connection and that your family helps to facilitate that. Many many gentle hugs to you. And your H is a poop; good riddance.

 

[witzend]

I'm surprised that anyone around here can even wipe their own **** without my help. Well, technically, they can't, because there would be no toilet paper anywhere if I didn't buy it and put it on the dispenser and put an extra few rolls in the bathroom.

That's just the most obvious example. You could say "see the doctor", "change the oil in the car", "renew car registration", "eat", "take medicine", "live in a house"... I could go on and on.

 

[bigdmomof3]

JoG thanks for the hugs and prayers. They are much needed. I have faced this battle mostly on my own and it has been difficult but I am learning how tough I can really be when I need to. And no I certainly wasn't going for the 'title'....lol!

 

[1905]

If I didn't need to sleep, I could get things done (maybe). I'm overwhelmed by chores, nobody helps me- in fact, they laugh at me, and appreciate nothing. I just want to read my book for a few minutes, I think I'll have to wait until summer.
I used to work on Saturdays, but I got a job after work doing home instruction for 10 hours a week, so I quit my Saturday job. The same day, the home instruction fell through and the Saturday job was given to someone else. Also, my Before School Program job I do- I cut my own hours on that one as well, now it's too late to get those hours back. I have 1.5 jobs instead of 3, I needed that money. And it's my own fault.

Ok, That's my stress of the moment. I better get back to cleaning.

 

[1905]

bigdmomof3-many hugs and prayers for you. I'm so sorry you are dealing with all this. -Alyssa

 

[witzend]

I forgot. I'm the only person capable of making a decision about anything. Ever.

 

[bigdmomof3]

Alyssa, thanks for the hugs and prayers!

I truly feel bad for all of us who are facing difficult times but it is sure nice to know that we all have each other.

Dee

 

[flutterby]

The litter boxes desperately need changed; they smell. I am physically unable to do it today - well, most days, but today especially.

I've asked easy child - you know, the unemployed one - at least 5 times today to change them. STILL not done.

The pharmacy claims that chewable amoxicyllin (sp) has been discontinued even though my doctor's daughter was just on them, so they converted the script to liquid. I thought difficult child was going to lose her mind. But, she can't swallow those big pills. Still, it is somehow my fault. ARGH!

I have yet another joint/ligament issue. I have all of these joint, ligament and tendon issues - connective tissue - all over my body, but hey...they can't find anything systemic. So, let's treat everything separately and wait for what pops up next.

And the answer to all of them? Steroid injections. The steroids I'm very sensitive to and that cause cushings-like symptoms from one localized injection. And now I need at least 3 more. The 25 pounds I lost? It will be history. And that's if I can find a hand specialist that takes my insurance. My doctor doesn't think any do and she's not sure a regular ortho will inject my hand.

And I'd really like self-cleaning laundry. Someone needs to come up with that.

 

[Hound dog]

Are you sure you wanted to start this thread Daisy?? LOL

For starters I'm sick as an utter dog. As in D O G. I can't breathe, I haven't been able to smell anything in 5 days including the litterbox (and that's saying something!), and I can't stop coughing like I'm trying to cough up a lung. Then of course there is the headache from hades and the fever.

husband being out of work is already knawing away at my last nerve. And of course his severence check didn't show up when it was supposed to.......so we have NO MONEY AT ALL........bills are due......I need gas for the car to get to school......

husband was cleaning like he'd become a whole new person right before I started school...........now I'm lucky if he does 1 thing per day.......and of course I'm supposed to lavish praise on him because he did that 1 thing. UGH Today's 1 thing was the dishes. OMG there weren't even that many!!!

Then there is easy child who says she'll pay me for watching the boys. But I always have to ask her for the money at least several times before I finally get it cuz she's always "forgetting" to give it to me. Now she knows I only started charging for sitting because we're in desperate need of money right now.........so what's her problem? Makes me feel like I'm begging and dammit I hate that!!!!

Then I've got this enormouse work load at school. So I'm trying to do homework/studying with husband yelling at the animals, the tv set blaring so loud it rattles the windows.......or easy child asking if I can watch the boys for an hour......Nichole asking to come do laundry.....who of course brings along Aubrey and the new puppy. (but at least Nichole pays me for it)

The homework studying thing is at least 1000 times worse because I'm fighting the darn virus. Half of the time I can't even recall what I've read for 5 mins........and I have to go very slow answering questions cuz my fingers seem to have a mind of their own and I'll look back and my answer has nothing to do with what I was thinking. ugh!! So it's taking forever to get thru homework.

Then I've got sister in law telling me that mother in law's house and garage has to been completely cleaned out as the new owner wants nothing left behind...............ok, let me see maybe I can fit that into my schedule sometime in oh say 2010. I've told her 3 times that is husband's problem. I did my part, I'm not worrying about it anymore.

And then every few mins it seems I have the darn nursing home calling me telling me every new medication, procedure, complaint mother in law has...........OMG!! I know they have to but it's driving me NUTS.

On top of all this I feel horribly guilty over poor Molly. husband put her into the backyard with all those plants she's allergic to....for an extended period. So all that healing is gone..........and she's red and got sores all over cuz she won't stop chewing herself half to death. I can't afford to take her to the vet. Heck I can't afford a gallon of milk right now. I can't afford to do much of anything for her. I did give her a good medicated bath. But it doesn't seem to be helping. easy child finally volunteered some benedryl left over from when her doctor told her to try it for sleep. I'm afraid she's going to get her skin infected (if it isn't already) and really have major problems. Makes me feel like a horrid Momma.

I want to know what I did in a past life.......seriously. Cuz I must have been the most horrible person to get all this bad karma this time around!!!


I *think* I'm done.

LOL

 

[Hound dog]

Oh............I just remembered something..........

Someone dumped 3 more cats into my yard. They won't leave. I've got Mr Underfoot and Skinny Minnie determined to come inside due to the cold and rain. Around here you open a door at your own risk. When we went to the pound to get Nichole's puppy.......I asked the workers if they new of anywhere I could take stray cats. The woman looked sad and said no. She gets asked all the time. There is a major stray cat/feral cat problem here..........but no one will take them. NO ONE.

I'm still feeding the strays mostly because Mr Underfoot and Skinny Minnie are out there and they really believe we're their people now. I don't even know where the next bag of food is coming from.......or if there will be one.

I hope there is a special place in h*ll for people who dump animals.

Ok. I think I'm done.

 

[witzend]

I would be sorely tempted to get a straw and some spit wads to use on any child who doesn't change the litter box after being asked five times in one day.

 

[flutterby]

I would be sorely tempted to get a straw and some spit wads to use on any child who doesn't change the litter box after being asked five times in one day.

I like the way you think.

 

[Hound dog]

[quoteI would be sorely tempted to get a straw and some spit wads to use on any child who doesn't change the litter box after being asked five times in one day. [/quote]

I agree!!

 

[Nomad]

"I forgot. I'm the only person capable of making a decision about anything. Ever."

We are talking about ourselves, right?
We are talking about healthy thinking...
Not difficult child thinking.
Well...then....
I like this comment a lot.
REALLY good.
Thanks Witz!

Some more thoughts....
Dee....Hugs and prayers headed your way.

Cat and Kitty Litter...OMG! We had a week from you know where with- difficult child re: this.
She has four now in her tiny place, and the recpercussions have been horrible. I think I have figured out a way to get it back down to three and with effort and a little luck, difficult child cleaned her place yesterday. Whew! I pray she will stop collecting cats and/or people will stop giving her cats.