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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 602531" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>HI there and welcome.</p><p></p><p>Do you have an understanding of attachment disorder? It is very hard to love an attachment disordered child. Being adopted alone can cause it, especially if there is chaos in the early years. The contentious divorce and change of caregivers only adds to the attachment problems. These kids can be very mean and even scary. Are you seeing anything that frightens you? Does your kiddo seem mean to animals and other people, play with fire or like to watch it, or poop and pee all over the place? I adopted a child who had attachment disorder and he was dangerous to my other two kids, but that's a whole long story. It is possible that your son is not safe to your daughter. He may have to live somewhere other than your home, like a group home or residential treatment center where he can be watched at all times. He has obviously seen too much and is very disturbed. Please don't spank him. It will only make things worse.</p><p></p><p></p><p>His behavior sounds like he was sexually abused somewhere along the way and I'd be very careful of him around his sister and other younger children. The child we adopted who had attachment disorder ended up sexually molesting both of my younger kids and we had to let him go elsewhere as he was a huge threat to any kid or animal he came close to. Don't beat yourself up here. You've got your hands full. Do you have any pets or other kids besides these two? Does your stepson have an alarm on his door for night time so that he can't leave the room without your knowing so you can make sure he stays away from his sister's room? If not, it's a good start.</p><p></p><p>IC, so GLAD you came to this post since you are also from Canada!! However, don't you think it sounds like her son has more than just an insecure attachment? It sounds to me like he has the whole nine yards, which is different than "iffy" attachment. Right? What do you think?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 602531, member: 1550"] HI there and welcome. Do you have an understanding of attachment disorder? It is very hard to love an attachment disordered child. Being adopted alone can cause it, especially if there is chaos in the early years. The contentious divorce and change of caregivers only adds to the attachment problems. These kids can be very mean and even scary. Are you seeing anything that frightens you? Does your kiddo seem mean to animals and other people, play with fire or like to watch it, or poop and pee all over the place? I adopted a child who had attachment disorder and he was dangerous to my other two kids, but that's a whole long story. It is possible that your son is not safe to your daughter. He may have to live somewhere other than your home, like a group home or residential treatment center where he can be watched at all times. He has obviously seen too much and is very disturbed. Please don't spank him. It will only make things worse. His behavior sounds like he was sexually abused somewhere along the way and I'd be very careful of him around his sister and other younger children. The child we adopted who had attachment disorder ended up sexually molesting both of my younger kids and we had to let him go elsewhere as he was a huge threat to any kid or animal he came close to. Don't beat yourself up here. You've got your hands full. Do you have any pets or other kids besides these two? Does your stepson have an alarm on his door for night time so that he can't leave the room without your knowing so you can make sure he stays away from his sister's room? If not, it's a good start. IC, so GLAD you came to this post since you are also from Canada!! However, don't you think it sounds like her son has more than just an insecure attachment? It sounds to me like he has the whole nine yards, which is different than "iffy" attachment. Right? What do you think? [/QUOTE]
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