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<blockquote data-quote="MyHrt31" data-source="post: 255308" data-attributes="member: 6666"><p>Hey there, sorry it took so long to reply. We have been having internet issues for the last few weeks and it doesn't seem to be getting better. I did call both his psychologist and psychiatrist to let them know what's happening. </p><p> </p><p>When I picked him up from school, he said that another kid was calling him stupid and it made him angry so he did not want to do any work. The teacher mentioned that he can be manipulative and make things seem like its not his fault, when he is actually the person who starts it. This is coming from a teacher who has worked with Aspergers children before and believes that a majority of his behaviors are apart of his exceptionality. She thinks that some of the other children are a bad influence on him and its making him test boundaries. He's going to an alternative school for a short time (a school where the "behavior" problem children go) but she does not think this is the proper setting for him. He's learned some really foul language there and knows exactly how and when to use it. Its frustrating because he was doing so well there at first but the teacher seems to think that he's gotten too comfortable at this school and that his other school should not have sent him there for so long. We have an IEP meeting next week and I requested a Assistive Technology Assessment as well as a one on one aid there to help him. He starts to get frustrated and blows up (although he hasn't done it since he's started this new medication). His biggest issues right now are cursing and refusing to do work (he blames others for his anger and says the work is "too hard")</p><p> </p><p>He's home right now, with no computer privileges (its his favorite pass time right now) and he's hating it! I am doing really good about not feeding in to his anger and staying calm when he's continuously begging for his privileges back and yelling about how mean I am to him.</p><p> </p><p> He says he's tired and the other kids call him fat so he's refusing to eat in the cafeteria now. He definitely has anxieties about school but refusing to do ANY work is making things much worse. </p><p> </p><p>As far as checking in at school, I think it would probably make things worse if I am there. He tends to act up even more when I am around him at school. I will try calling every few hours though to remind him that he needs to do his work and to make good choices. </p><p> </p><p>I emailed his psychologist about this so she can offer some suggestions on how to deal with this behavior. His doctor and his teacher (the one who called today) are both going to be at the IEP meeting so I'm very blessed to have others backing me up regarding my difficult child's education. </p><p> </p><p>I was just curious if anyone else had a difficult child who acted pretty good at home but was completely out of control at school or in public. He's no angel at home but he's certainly not anything like he is in school. I wonder if he should be put on anti anxiety medication? He's on Vyvanse and Invega but maybe he needs a little something more for his anxieties? Thanks for the advice, I will definitely check in with him at school to remind him about his expectations <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> I guess I am just starting to panic because he's due to go back to his regular school on March 30 and I don't want to see the same issues presenting themselves all over again. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/anxious.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":anxious:" title="anxious :anxious:" data-shortname=":anxious:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="MyHrt31, post: 255308, member: 6666"] Hey there, sorry it took so long to reply. We have been having internet issues for the last few weeks and it doesn't seem to be getting better. I did call both his psychologist and psychiatrist to let them know what's happening. When I picked him up from school, he said that another kid was calling him stupid and it made him angry so he did not want to do any work. The teacher mentioned that he can be manipulative and make things seem like its not his fault, when he is actually the person who starts it. This is coming from a teacher who has worked with Aspergers children before and believes that a majority of his behaviors are apart of his exceptionality. She thinks that some of the other children are a bad influence on him and its making him test boundaries. He's going to an alternative school for a short time (a school where the "behavior" problem children go) but she does not think this is the proper setting for him. He's learned some really foul language there and knows exactly how and when to use it. Its frustrating because he was doing so well there at first but the teacher seems to think that he's gotten too comfortable at this school and that his other school should not have sent him there for so long. We have an IEP meeting next week and I requested a Assistive Technology Assessment as well as a one on one aid there to help him. He starts to get frustrated and blows up (although he hasn't done it since he's started this new medication). His biggest issues right now are cursing and refusing to do work (he blames others for his anger and says the work is "too hard") He's home right now, with no computer privileges (its his favorite pass time right now) and he's hating it! I am doing really good about not feeding in to his anger and staying calm when he's continuously begging for his privileges back and yelling about how mean I am to him. He says he's tired and the other kids call him fat so he's refusing to eat in the cafeteria now. He definitely has anxieties about school but refusing to do ANY work is making things much worse. As far as checking in at school, I think it would probably make things worse if I am there. He tends to act up even more when I am around him at school. I will try calling every few hours though to remind him that he needs to do his work and to make good choices. I emailed his psychologist about this so she can offer some suggestions on how to deal with this behavior. His doctor and his teacher (the one who called today) are both going to be at the IEP meeting so I'm very blessed to have others backing me up regarding my difficult child's education. I was just curious if anyone else had a difficult child who acted pretty good at home but was completely out of control at school or in public. He's no angel at home but he's certainly not anything like he is in school. I wonder if he should be put on anti anxiety medication? He's on Vyvanse and Invega but maybe he needs a little something more for his anxieties? Thanks for the advice, I will definitely check in with him at school to remind him about his expectations :) I guess I am just starting to panic because he's due to go back to his regular school on March 30 and I don't want to see the same issues presenting themselves all over again. :anxious: [/QUOTE]
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